People want love and respect (see article on respect)

To do this need to
▪look at the persons good points ▪express their good points
▪lift people up about you

The higher and greater you are the more you can’t lift other people up.

A compliment from a prince means a lot, a compliment from a tramp who has failed in his life means less. So use this status and respectability you have, to lift other people up and make that lifting other people up of other people worth while.

When lifting somebody up it may make you feel less in relative terms, because they are above you.  In absolute terms os is not though. However you need to be generous in that way as it is about being a good person, the positive karma will also pay back with you getting more respect from others, from God and more self esteem.

Never put yourself down in order to make other people feel better, people who want you to do this are evil.  It is damaging for yourself, as the world is one you are also damage others by doing this.

However be careful not to show off about yourself, you are using your respectability to talk about and lift up others.

Body language

To do this.

When talking about others you express respect towards them
▪look upwards to look up at them and tilt your head a bit higher like you are looking up to them.  This is like you look up to them which is a respect thing.  
▪look at them in the eyes, the white of their eyes, as looking at the black centre is too intense.
▪Smile
▪Open your eyes and raise your eyelids
▪Speak with higher tones when mentioning them
▪Speak gently
▪Raise your body up, sit and stand straight

When talking about yourself, to be modest, do not look down but do not look up in the same way.  Do not do the above stuff so much, so you are saying that your stuff is okay, but not showing off.
▪look down more, tilt your head downa bit lower.
▪do not look at them so much
▪Do not smile so much
▪Open your eyes and raise your eyelids so much
▪Speak with not such high tones when mentioning them (average tones)
▪Speak normal volume
▪Not raise your body up so much, sit and stand straight

So when talking about yourself, you express that you are okay when talking about yourself.  This is the balance of not putting yourself down, but also not showing off.

Of course though, when you are selling something, you express how great it is using the above.

Inside

A compliment needs to be with love and respect, you need to really feel it.

You are lifting them up, looking up to them.

The more powerful your emotions and spirit are, the greater and more effective the compliment is. The more powerful the love, respect and happiness is of the compliment. There is a greater wave lifting them up.

People believing you are the same as them

People want to be friendly with people like themselves and not someone who is different. This is a first and primary thing for who people are friendly with!

So a person will be friendly with people who have the same amount of money as them, beliefs, background, class, nationality, religion status, views on life, sex, interest and so on. The more important that factor or interest is to them, the more they will want to be with people that have that same factor.

People naturally feel comfortable with people who are the same as them.

People feel uncomfortable and even hate people who are different to them.

A person may tolerate someone who is different to them, but this is an act of service, compassion and benevolence. It does not mean that they selfishly want to be with that person.

This is regardless of how nice, generous and so on that other person might be. For example, even if someone is a criminal and a bad person, he will only feel comfortable with other criminal and bad people. Even though such people will rip them off and so on.

This even means a nasty person will only feel comfortable around other nasty people and will not want to be friendly with nice people as they will not feel comfortable with them because they are different.

Yes a person maybe around other people who are different to them to be tolerant to them. However that is because they are being nice tolerating the other person’s difference, not because they want to be with them.

How to adapt to people:

1, Only mention the sides of yourself that are the same as the other person, not those that are different.

2, The personality is a mask, the word persona comes from the Greek word for mask and once a person realises this then they can use it to adapt to different people.

The personality/ego is your mask to the world, without it people will not be able to see and relate to you. They will not be able to tell if you are a prince, beggar, professional, working class person, childish, mature, responsible, immature and so on.

However it is only a mask and you need to know that it is not the real actual you, or you will get lost by purely identifying yourself by your personality. The persona is what people use to relate to each other.

A real friend is there to help you if you have a serious and disturbing problem. Often it is the people you think will not help, that actually do. This is because people can be very charming and part of charm is making huge promises, very charming people often make false promises.

Togetherness

“Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.” A real friend is with you, two people being together so they are not alone and lonely. This actually does not even need anyone to talk, they just have to be there. It is not one person wanting to have power over the other person.

It is about not being alone.

It’s not about one person wanting to be better than the other person, they’re both together and it isn’t about a hierarchy. One person is not competing to be better than the other.

Making Friends

Friendship is 95% mutual empathy, joint connection in emotional connection, making each other laugh, making each other feel good, support, advice, praise and affection. This empathy can happen when are similar to each other. It Is words, feelings and acts of consideration.

Being together and wanting company. Empathy means want to be with someone.

It is only 5% accountability of doing things for each other, when we really depend on them for our urgent core needs.

How to make friends

People want to be friendly with people who are like themselves. ‘You and me of the same blood’, ‘peas in a pod’ and so on.

So you need to learn how to be just like the person you’re talking to.

Childhood development with making friends

Jordan Peterson says that from a childhood development point of view, parents need to make sure their children know to control themselves so they can do what the other person wants, and not just what they want to do.

They need to learn this between the ages of 2 and 4. They need to be able to control themselves so that they can do what the other person wants and make sure they can have the same frame of reference as the other person they are talking to.

If they can’t do this then they can’t cooperate with others and so they can’t get on with other people in the world.

Life will be very hard for them, because other people won’t interested in them and if they can’t cooperate from the same frame of references other people, other people won’t have an interest in them, as they won’t be of any use to other people.

Be fun

People want to be with other people who are fun, to do this just be fun, the embodiment of fun and energy of fun.

If you just talk about your problems all the time, people don’t want to be loaded with that.

Of course you need to be right for the situation, being fun is for party times. There’s times to be sympathetic, compassionate and so on.

This is learned from someone who met Tony Blair the former UK pri minister.

1, He made the person he was talking to feel like the most important thing in the world.

2, Genuinly be interested in everything about the other person, not just generically, but their skills and other things. He did not go up to other people and mention about himself and what he had done, he just asked the person he was talking to about themselves and what they do.

3, He then deprecated himself in relation to the other person, by saying things like ‘I wish I could do that’ or ‘what you do is do much more important than what I do’.

4, He also acted with an openess of a best, trusted friend who cares about, admires and loves the person he was talking to as a best friend would. Normally people only do this openess with another person if they care, love and really trusts someone. This openess means on an astral level he really could be hurt, so most people normally only do this if they really trust the person they are talking to. This best friend stuff was of course a false promise that he wanted to be their best friend.

Of course Tony Blair used this for people to choose him for pri minister and other such roles.

General things, not specifically Tony Blair

Be very appreciative and thank ful of people and what they do.

Be humble. MN

An interest in people

Able to look at and be very aware of people’s feelings, this is the big one. For example can tell how people are hurt, when they are told that they are wrong or should do things differently.

Interested in people.

A communicator.

Then can know what they want and not to hurt them.

This means a person can be a warm, friendly person, that wants to hug other people and get them into the community.

This is about feelings and emotions, which is the opposite of somebody who is interested in logic, machines, calculations, physics and computers.

However, each person has a different makeup, this just may not be you. Your value may be in science, logic, computers, etc.

Do not be self absorbed

Being self absorbed is being preoccupied with one’s own thoughts, emotions, life, good qualities, bad qualities, what they look like etc.

A definition of love is to value the well being of others more, or as much as your own.

When being with people it has to all be about them, not at all about yourself.

So need to be firstly thinking about, interested in, hoping for and wanting the best for other people’s thoughts, emotions, life, qualities, what they look like etc. Also known as goodwill and best wishes.

Cannot fake it, actually have to do it, then you will shine and people will want to be with you.

Of course do not push it too far, have to make sure you needs are met so you can function and be well for others.

People liking and loving you

To be liked, a person has to like other people.

So by liking other people, a person becomes likeable.

Love is a bigger and greater version of like.

To get love, a person has to give love.

So by giving love to other people, a person becomes lovable.

You have to genuinely love other people. Love is a hugely powerful thing and it’s what does it.

Of course to do these things properly, they have to be done without any thought of return.

People will naturally like a person who loves God, God is the power behind all that all is made from and is one with. So by a person loving God, they love all.

People thinking you are awesome and wanting to get to know you

Be kind and empathetic.

Empathy means understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another. An empathic person can also do this without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in a physical manner ; also : the capacity for this

So you show empathy and ready comprehension of other people states. For example you are aware that someone needs something and helps them get it.

Also be fun, if you do fun things and share those experiences with others by telling stories with them and letting people join you it is a good way. However you have to do fun things and enjoy doing them to be able to do this.

People often do not care if a person is good or bad, just if they are charming or tedious.

Never tell people they are wrong

Highly advanced people want other people to say when they are wrong but these people are few and far between. Also this should only be done when the person really need to know that because what they are wrong about is relevant.

For the fast majority of people they want to know they are right and not that they are wrong about anything. This is to the smallest tiniest degree.

People want to know how to they are very right they are and how good it is they are right about it.

However be careful of flattery which is telling people how great they are, or something they have is, for insincere reasons, or telling them that something is great when it is not.

So only tell someone it’s great when it is and also only for the right reasons. Needs to be done because that you want someone to be well and good. It must not be not because you selfishly want something from them, or even worse that you are being dishonest with them to get it.

Being fun

Need to be fun for people to want to be with you, that is what you are, play games, joke and enjoy being with others like a party. People will want to be you because it is like fun at a party.

However people who are in that mood are not reliable and organised. People are often wanting to be with such people, like sales people can be like this. However they are no good at actually producing things, because doing those things is boring. People do not want to be with people who are boring.

So need to be able to change from being fun and enjoying yourself when want people to want to be with you. To being focused determined and organised, when things actually need to be done.

Happy and Joy

People want to be around people who are happy and have joy.

Have a look at Britney Spears, she is happy and full of joy, that’s why people want to be around her.

She’s enjoying things, and the things she does.

So when you have a performer or dancer, they’re enjoying themselves. Other people will only enjoy whatever you do, if you are as well.

When chatting with most people

To be successful chatting with other people, just be interested in the other person, listen to and watch them

They then think that they the are the ones talking, you are the one listening and so they feel they are the clever one and are in control.

People want to be noticed and acknowledged, they think about the clever things they have said and how they have been received. Not what other people have said.

Often they also want to compete and be the cleverest, funniest and so on person. If you compete with them and you are better than they are, they will feel different to you, inferior and hate you. If you are less good than them, they will not be able to relate to you and not find you interesting. So want to be as good as they are, to be a peer and a friend.

To be good socially, it is about letting the other person talk and acknowledging, respecting and having affection for how clever and brilliant they are.

If you talk about yourself, you are taking away from that and in relative terms they feel smaller.

When you get to that magic point where they are just talking about themselves and what they are interested in, then the other person will be happy and can go on and on, especially as they know about themselves and what they are interested in.

To help do this, you have to really listen to the other person to find out what they are really interested in, their passions and what makes them special. Then they can start talking about it and you can listen as you are interested. Also listening is important so that you can ask them questions to help this .

People are normally not interested in what other people have to say, such as for example what you have to say.  Unless it is things about what other people have done, which shows how crap other people are and so in relative terms makes them feel better about how they are.

When most people talk about themselves and what they have done,  it is normally to get attention and show how great they are.

If you just listen, do not say anything except ask questions because they think you are interested, impressed by them and what they have to say, people will think:

▪that you understand what they are saying, even if you do not.  The fact that you are listening will mean they presume you understand. If what they are saying is complicated, they will even be impressed that you understand.
▪that you agree with them, and so like you because they think you have the same views and opinions as them, even if you do not.

People like people who they think have the same views as them because they think they are the like them.   People hate and feel uncomfortable with people who they think have different views to them.

When chatting with advanced people

When chatting with an advanced person you will get the feeling that they are really genuinely interested in you. They are not talking about themselves and how great they are.

Advanced people want to learn, advance and progress. As a result they want to listen so that they can learn things and they know that them talking gets in the way of that. They want to listen to everybody, because even the biggest idiots every so often have something you can learn from.

Advanced people get what they need, do not go after more and do not want more. They need to be around other people, as humans are social animals who go crazy if we are by ourselves for too long. However they do not need to be the most respected and powerful so have no desire to talk a lot.

People tell other people things for power, they do this in a way that they are telling them or trying to persuade what to think or do.

People also want respect so they talk about how great they and their achievements are.

People also talk for attention.

Advanced people only need power, respect and attention if it is needed in the service of others.

Advanced people realise that as most people are normally blabbering things of little importance, only 1% of things need them to comment. Even then they can say it in one short sentence, because they understand what they are saying, so can put it presicely and consicely.

An example might be that a conversation on the colour of a jumper does not really matter, but a conversation on if some people are going to be honest with a good person does matter.

As other people want to do what they want to do and also like to have power The advanced person knows that the more times they use their influence by requesting for something different from what other people want, the more they are using up favours, so they know to only use that up when it matters.

Other things

To be social and people to like you, always talk quietly, speaking loudly is aggressive.

Speaking quietly is soft and lovely. People will like you for it.

A person may speak loudly because they want to use aggression to control the other person like giving aggressive orders to a dog. The recipient if this will not like this.

Being aggressive to get people to do things is not good, needs to be that you do things so they want to be with you.

Even when you do talk, make sure:
●the other person wants you to talk
●you are talking about what they are interested in and want to hear. Otherwise you are talking at someone, when as a companion you should be talking with them.

You need to be able to put people at ease

If you are a ease with yourself, at ease generally and at ease with them, then they will feel at ease as well.

If you are comfortable with yourself, then other people will too.

As all the world is one, how you are bleeds onto and effects others. So the discomfort of a person being uncomfortable with themselves, is uncomfortable to others to be around. As are other things like self loathing etc.

You also need to be full of good energies as that is what comes off you and onto other people.

If you go to a party by yourself and get stressed when you are there, your stress is something that people will not want and so people will want to stay away from you, so it is counter productive.

To be relaxed, chilled, loose, not tense, laid back and happy, full of joy, it has to be like everything is okay.

If you are stressed, anxious and worried by problems, then you will not be nice to be around. The unpleasant energies come off you onto them and so you will be annoying to be a round.

In social situations people want to have fun and enjoy themselves, they do not want to be stressed and working. When you are being social with somebody, they are joining you, being together with you, part of your world. If you are relaxed, laid back and having fun, they will want to join you being that.

If you are creating fun then people want to be with you, but most of all you need to actually be fun. If you are fun and are open so that other people can be part of it, then you are fun and people want to be with that.

If you are stressed, working, embarrassed, uncomfortable, having a hard time, they will not want to join you and be with you.

Also do not try too hard, if you are stressing and straining people will experience from you and get that energy coming over, which they will not like.

Also as your stress and more unpleasant energies go onto other people from you, other people will become stressed themselves and react badly to you, as they now have these unpleasant energies so will start to behave unpleasantly .

Also they will not want to be with you because they will get these unpleasant energies.

Also if a person has all these negative energies, other people have to sort them out. This uses a lot of the other person’s emotional energies and resources.

So it is important to be relaxed, happy and so on, in order to get the best results. People will naturally get these energies from you and will want to be with you to get them.

It goes further than this. All the world is one, so when one person becomes happy, other people do as well. When people are happier, they are nicer and kinder to other people. So if you are happy, other people around you will become happy and so will be nice to you. If you are happy, people around you will be happy, so will be nice to you.

To help do this:
▪serve the person you are talking to, if your energies are for other people, so they eminate and spread from you onto others. As it is for other people, then good energies will come down from above as it is for others

• If you are selfish, then you will have all the negative selfish energies that come from wanting things. These are not so nice for other people to experience.

▪lighten up, have fun, this is also for the sake of the person you are talking to, if it is for them, then they will get to enjoy you enjoying things too.
▪it must not be about what you want, selfishly wanting the other person’s company, that is taking, dark and heavy. It is about you serving the other person by you being good company for them.
▪by being a good moral person, a person will have good energies. If a person is evil, they will have bad ones.

Jim Carrey the comedian found that people want to be ‘Free from concern’, so in his act he is a person who is.

Anger, sadness etc.

If a person is angry and they smile at someone else. It will not matter that they have smiled physically. The fact that they are angry and have those energies, means the other person will get that anger and not want to be with them.

They are receiving anger from that first person, as they are receiving anger then they themselves will become more angry. Also they will not like that person as they are getting anger from them and out of revenge will be angry back for that.

If a person is sad, then other people also will not want to be with them as they are getting sadness from them. Also other people around them will be sad as they are getting sadness from this person.

If a person is happy and smiles at someone else, the other person cannot help but smile back and be happy. That person is receiving happiness from the first person, so will themselves become happy and will also like the first person for giving them that happiness energy.

It goes so far that if someone wants to attack you, if you are happy, that other person will be full of happiness. As they are then full of happiness they will not want to, or be able to attack you.
Happiness makes people generous and kind.

General

When people say that a person has a good heart, it refers to their feelings and emotions. So when you have good feelings and emotions like happiness, love and joy, be open so they can spill out onto other people. Then they can feel, enjoy and experience them.

This will also affect you physically in your mannerisms and expressions, so they will be able to see you have good feelings and emotions as well.

Ultimately to have good emotions and feelings, a person has to be a good giving person.

It’s like certain people have a flame of bringing people together and happiness, for that flame to grow and live they have to share it with others.

They are the people who regularly organize barbecues so their friends stay together.

Be true to yourself

Relax, then people will feel the same and like you. It is also far easier for you, as a result you will be happier, more comfortable and people will like you as they are getting these energies.

Be your natural self, true to yourself, people can then enjoy you as there is something really there and not a fake nothing.

By relaxing it lets the real inner you come out for others.

Adapting to people for their sake so they feel comfortable with you is good as it is for them. However pretending to that you are greater and better than you are and showing off is a selfish thing.

Trying to con people that you are greater and better than you are, is a huge amount of work and strain. It is also a deceit which is a very uncomfortable feeling. People will pick up this angst, strain and darkness a bd not like you for it.

Be at ease with yourself

To be a gentleman need to be at ease with your own skin and yourself.

Hemmingway ‘Nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man, true nobility is being superior to your former self.’

Look at the good things in life

There is a time for taking responsibility looking a life’s difficulties and problems. This is what I need to do in real life to solve problems and be effective.

This is stressful and not fun, so not for people to enjoy being with you. A person in social situations needs to look at the good things in life, because that is what people enjoy and have fun with.

Some people may enjoy if it is mocking others, but that is a different thing, as it is the enjoyment of putting others down. This can go down a dark path though.

Goodness and toxins:

Evil / toxins:

Badness and evil are not nice for other people to be around. They rub off on other people and so they will not want to be a person who is them.

Bad things are hateable and not likeable.

So if a person is those things, other people will not want to be around them.

Examples are narcissism, vanity, frustration, arrogance, lust for power etc. These are basically just some of the things that come from selfishness and so lead to sadness, did satisfaction etc.

Also this badness and evil will rub off on other people so they become insecure, selfish, sad and all the other things that come from selfishness and evil.

Goodness

If a person is goodness and so is good things, for example kindness and caring. People will want to be around that person.

These things also run of on others and so people will want to be around that person. People just get better and have these things from being around that person, eg. confidence, optimism etc. Other people succeed and just get better from being around that person.

Goodness and these good things are also lovable, so people will love and like a person who is them.

Basically by being good everything just works.

By being evil it does not.

Stress repels people

People do not want to be around people who are stressed. They do not want the negative energy and feeling.

So make sure you are calm as you can be and at ease when taking to people, as they will want to be around that energy. This also makes you open and able to feel other people’s energies which makes life lovely and good. You cannot do this if you are stressed and worried, as they are overaught by stress and worry.

Be calm, at ease, like everything is fine and nothing to worry about. To do this, focus on the positive and the things you can do, not the things you can’t.

It’s important you feel comfortable, people like to be around people who feel comfortable. If you start worrying about what people think of you and stuff like that, you will no longer feel comfortable.

If you don’t feel comfortable, people can’t enjoy whatever it is you are doing with them, whether it’s joking around or whatever.

All the world  is one, things may look separate but we are in truth one with everything.

If you are happy, well, enjoying life, having fun and things are gong well with you then people will want to be with you.

Your good energies, happiness and good feelings will go onto other people, like how perfume goes around a room.  When they are with you then will feel happy, fully of good feelings and energies.

When you smile at them they cannot help but be happy back, your good energies have come to them and make them well and happy.

However if you have things that people do not want, such as fear, anger, hate, sadness, frustration then when you are with other people, these things will come onto them, they will hate you and not know why.  They will not just now want to be with you because they get infected with these things, these things will also make them behave in such a way that is against others.  They will be annoyed by you, hate you and not know why.

So you need to be well for the sake of others, so that if you are well, others will get to have those good energies that come from you being well.  As you being well is not for selfish reasons, is for the benefit of others, it is in line with God’s morals and so you will be well.

This is an advantage of being good and not evil.  With good, as it is for the sake of others and God, God will give you more good energies as it is for the sake of others and God.  You will go upwards and things will go well.

If you are evil then God will not give you the good energies, you will just be a dry husk.   Also as you live in fear, you will end up putting up walls and hardening yourself from other people and the rest of the world. This is to try and protect yourself from bad things attacking you.  This makes you hard so that no good energies come out and then people will not want to be with you as they cannot get anything from you.  Also as you are closed they see cannot you, as you are so closed up and so on.  You need to be open so that people can see you, see in you and there is something to look at and be with.

All good energies come down from God, you are just a channel, the moment your ego thinks that the energies are from you, then it all dries up.  You worship God and it is all his will.  It is all for God and for the love of God.

People like to be with people who are good looking, have a lovely smile as it is nice to see them and a pleasure for them.  People do not want to be with people who are ugly and unpleasant to look at as it is unpleasant for them.

However you really must have these things for the benefit of others, if you have them to show off that you have them, you are better than them, they are below you, then they will hate you.   If you are a rich man you must open your doors so that others can stay in your house and benefit from your wealth.  It is the same with your psychological well being, you must be open so that others can also be better off from your good psychological energies.

You need to be open so that the doors are open for your good energies to go onto other people.

You also need to be open so you let people come into you and be with you.They are with your heart, soul, spirit and connection to the divine. Otherwise they have nothing to be with and be involved with.

Of course you can only let people have things that will treat them properly.  Some will want you to be well, others will be nice to you to get things in return.  Some will just want to steal from you, take control and steal from you.and those you cannot let in.  You have to change according to the circumstances.of what the people are like.

Personal life

On a more basic practical level, being open means letting people know about you, your personal life, what has happened in your life, what has gone wrong, worked well, your heart, passions, interests and all the personal things about you. People need to be able to know who you really are.

Otherwise it is like a person cannot get to know you and you are closed off.