To have a relationship with a woman where she feels comfortable with you, you need to be receptive to be aware of what’s going on.

However from a male libido point of view and for getting an erection, you need to be the opposite of that. The instigator, the forceful one.

So make sure that psychologically for sex you are that instigator and forceful one, so you get the masculinity and force for an erection. You have to do sex in that way or it just doesn’t work.

If you don’t find her attractive

If you don’t find the woman is attractive you just f*** her, rather than sex or making love. Then it does matter as your job is just to f*** her and it does matter how she looks.

You are not interested in her and how she looks, you are just f***ing.

You are not looking at her and how she looks, you are just f”””ing.

Of course to be nice you do the making love things and are nice and loving to her as that is what women want, but this is for her and not to make you get an erection.

How to ensure is good for the woman, what she wants

Women like it as it is the man being forceful, assertive, in charge

They do not like it if the man is being nasty, spiteful, hateful,

It is basically a man being a real man, taking control.

Women want the man to do the things to them, be the one doing it.

Women like it when the man:

1, loves the woman and wants to give her pleasure
2, Is doing it because the man wants them, has to have them, has to have sex with them.
3, wants them

So the woman will not like it if 1, 2 & 3 are not there. Such as if the man calls them a bitch, slut, says wants to f**k her etc.

About 25% of women like it, others do it just because they know their man likes it.

It can be a dark thing where the women was abused or raped when younger and they are continuing this habit. This is a bad thing and needs therapy.

For men it can be a way of being aggressive, like how sports are used as a channel to stop actual damaging violence in society.  So it is fine if consenting and does not get out of hand!

It is important to hold,, hug, kiss and touch her like you love her.

Breasts and bottom are ergogenic zones that are good to pay more attention to.  She will also love you kissing down the sides and from sides of her neck.

The clitorus should be the last place to touch and lick because it’s very sensitive and not nice for a lady if they are not relaxed, warmed up and  ready for it.

Touch all other parts of her body so the desire grows and only then touch the vagina. Then she can get several clitoris orgasms in a row.

Being masculine

Women when it comes to sex want the man to manhandle them. The man to position them, instigated doing stuff and do the stuff to them. The man is meant to know what the woman wants and do it to her. The man takes charge, dominates the the woman and does the stuff.

Women want the man to be in charge.   However of course it is for the woman to consent to this, or it is rape.   Also it is for the woman to be soft and nurturing with this as that is how it works.

The woman is attracting him, so they want to be so attractive that the man wants them, wants to do stuff to them and cannot resist her.

Romance

Sex for women is mostly about being loved and cared for by a man, the man wants to please and love them. So it takes ages to get a woman to want sex, but after lots of showing that you love them, care for them cuddling and so on they will be attracted to you and want sex with you.

To a woman 80% of it is about having a man love them, cuddle them and care for them.  If they have an evening in bed with a man and all they do is cuddle, that is a successful and lovely time.  For a man sadly he just wants to penetrate and put his seed in her, the women will be upset if he says that to her.

The woman wants to feel special which is why they want it to be that the man is monogamous to them and only wanting sex with them. If the man is having sex with other women it means to a lady that she is not special.

If one evening they do not want sex, lots of showing that you love them, then cuddling them, then eventually if they are happy with it gentle caressing and stroking their body to show that you care for them, should turn them on so they want sex.

For women each time they have sex with a man, they feel more and more connected with him. Women want that connection, to feel loved, wanted, intimacy.

They want sex to mean something, deep feelings that the man loves her.

For women it is a special thing, they are letting a man into them, they feel vulnerable and wary to fall in love with the man. The more the man makes love to them, the more they open up and fall in love with him.

Women take time to ‘warm up’

Even if a woman is attracted to a man, they will not want to have sex with him for many weeks, or months until they feel very comfortable with him.

However if they want to have him, they know they will have to have sex with him on the second, or third date to keep him interested. They may do it, in order to get the man for a permanent relationship, even if they do not want to have sex with him so quickly into the relationship.

However once they are warmed up and feel comfortable with a man, they will want sex a lot, possibly even more than the man does.

The more relaxed a woman is with a man, the easier it is for them to have an orgasm and good sex.

Male sex drive

Women want a man who is strong and masculine, with masculine energy. A man needs to be sexual or there is nothing for them ro be attracted to.

Men just want to put that seed into a lady, if sex is 20 seconds it is great for them.

However women like sex to be as long as possible, slow gentle foreplay and so on, for an hour or even more. This will become boring for a man because he just wants to put his seed in her.

The man likes to be forceful and aggressive because that is hard strong masculine energy.

However women are delicate, sensitive and want him to be gentle when having sex with them. They want it to be that as he loves them, he does not want to hurt them.

Women are soft and sensitive, so want to be treated very gently, especially to avoid any pain as they are so sensitive.

Pleasure is receiving gentle caressing and kissing, hard pressing hurts, especially as they are so sensitive in their erogenous zones. Of course it needs to be done in a strong way, from a strong masculine man, or there is no sexual attraction or pleasure.

Remember though to still keep your masculinity and sexuality of being a man, men want to be hard and forceful when they are ‘doing it’ to a lady which is what men sexually are, or it just does work. If men are not true to what are, they cannot work.

Women are soft and nurturing so they want to be treated gently, but if you are not masculine and a man with all your sexual desires and drives, you cannot function as a male. This is because you will have no drive or ability to do sex, because you are not being true to your own sex. So the man will not be masculine, be able to do it and also there will be no masculinity for the lady to be attracted to. A women may want to things from a man, but he must be a man otherwise he will not work. He has to be a man, you have to remember what you want and how you work. As a man you will not have her hobbies and point of view, and if you do, you will probably no longer be a hetra sexual male.

So the woman wants it to be like a wild strong stallion that keeps himself under a degree of control so does not push her around too much, go inside her to quickly, come too quickly and is gentle. This also means that the man can spend time doing foreplay. The women can want foreplay and sex to be for almost an hour before the man comes in side her. The woman wants the man to be doing this because he wants to give her pleasure and loves her.

Inexperienced males will get very excited, so will not be able to hold themselves back self and so will ejaculate too quickly. The male needs to ensure he does not get over excited.

Good sex

Women want a man who has sexual prowess, so must be a consummate lover.

Women want a man who can read the body language of his partner; in nearly every sexual escapade, he knows exactly what his partner needs, even if she doesn’t realise it. This is so the man never needs to stop him to say that what he is doing isn’t working, it is almost always perfect.

So the man never fails to perform, the lady rarely needs to tell him what she wants; he knows.

For a woman, when a man has sex with them, it means that the man finds them special. The woman wants it to be that the man finds her special.

Whole body

Whereas men have less erogenous zones, penis, nipples, anal area, lips etc.

Women have many erogenous zones, in fact they like a man to touch, kiss and caress their entire body and every part of their. This is also because sex us a way for women of being loved and they want it to be that the man loves every part of their body. It is good if the man I can touch more than one place on theur body at once.

Kissing

On a first date with a man, the kiss is really important to a women, it determines if he is the right man for her and so on.

It needs to be a romance novel kiss like he really loves her.

Trust

Girls are only happy with guy touching them once trust them, as sexually the girl is delicate and has to surrender. To trust the man they have to know his personality. Touching is how the electricity happens between a man and a woman.

Of course some ladies trust more quickly than others

After orgasm

If the man gives the woman an orgasm, she will think and feel he is wonderful and fantastic. This feeling of hers will go on for minutes and hours. It is important that the man is still romantic during these times and does not for example talk about football, or his favourite science fiction program as this will kill the romance and so her mood, feelings and thoughts of how wonderful you are.

A kiss has to be like it is from a man, so not a little peck like it is from a wood pecker. Pecks are for birds, nobody wants to go out with a bird.

It has to be like the man really wants her as she is so lovely and beautiful, full of passion.

If it is on the lips then a full long kiss like you really want to be there. A french kiss needs to be full of love and psssion.

It is a way of the man communicating to the lady how wonderful and beautiful the man thinks she is and a way of giving her pleasure.

Women find a good kiss from a man romantic, because it is a way of expressing how much he loves her. 

This is why it also has to be done romantically and not like it is a kiss from a friend.

Also scientifically the testosterone in the man’s saliva goes to the ladies mouth and that makes it and him attractive.

Dating

A woman does not feel anything in her lower regions for a man unless, she is french kissed. Full on, tongues doing their stuff, your tongue around hers and then your tongue goes around the other way around hers and so on, says Patti Stanger.

A lady may think that a man is not that great, not be interested in him and think he is rubbish, but when he french kisses her, she then thinks that he is amazing and everything changes!

It is important to try and kiss a lady both on the lips and with your tongue on a first date if possible.

Yes a lady may be wary and may not feel comfortable to have sex with a guy until many dates later on, this to check he is serious and they are comfortable with him. However girls like kissing and that is okay on a first date, girls want kissing with lips and tongues, they see it as romantic.

However be careful to not upset or annoy them by trying to go further than kissing if they have not signified or seem that they want this.

Hence the Cher song:
‘If you want to know
If he loves you so
Its in his kiss
(Thats where it is)
Oh, its in his kiss, thats where it is’

A woman does not feel anything for a man unless she is french kissed, tongues going around and doing stuff.

Women love to kiss and do not see it like they are having sex with a man. As a result they can kiss on the first date and kiss loads of times on the second date and it has nothing to do with oral sex or sleeping with a man.

The man will get bored and want to take it to the next level. The girl will want to kiss on and on and on, they will not get bored. For the girl it is romantic and part of the man loving them.

A good kiss:

•Is gentle so they know you love them

•Stong enough with you and how you do it that they get your masculinity, otherwise there is nothing for them as a feminine lady to be attracted to.

•Movement otherwise it is dead and there is nothing going on. Slow movement to so it is pleasurable, but can do fast a bit on occasion to keep it interesting. A kiss where you press your lips against their’s for 10 seconds does nothing, there needs to be movement.

•Variety: lots of different things otherwise it is boring. Your tongue touches and moves around and along, different parts of their tongue. For example touching end of your tongue with the end of theirs. The side of your tongue with theirs.

Needs to be done with the passion that you love the lady and really want her.

Picking the right partner
Looking at a potential partner as a person, not just sex

When looking for a wife they need to be kind, clever and pretty in that priority order. That is the secret to a marriage that will last a lifetime.

Needs to be someone that genuinely cares about you and is nice to you.

For a man it needs to be a lady that really genuinly does want to look after the man.

It is very easy to men to be ruled by sexual attraction, so to go for someone who is pretty as a first priority. However having a life together is about a relationship that encompasses all of life, buying a home, caring for people when they are sick, children and all of the decisions. So a man needs to get on with his wife like a friend and a valued companion. That is why the first priority is that a man’s wife needs to be kind.

A man can just want to go for the beautiful girl to fall in love with, like diving off a cliff. Need to look at the lady as a person separate from the sexual attraction. Need to look under the surface, what are they really like as a person.
Be okay with being single

A person has to be able to spend time by themselves to find out what they are like as a person and what they are like.

Also if a person cannot cope with being single and being alone, they will pick one of the first people they meet. However they should go on many dates with many people and not just go with one of the first people, as they cannot cope with being single.
Values

Needs to be that you have the same values, so that when make decisions they are the same ones and there is no conflict. For example these may be decisions about:
▪whether to honest, or dishonest
▪pay your taxes or not pay them
▪be polite or be pushy to get ahead
▪the children’s schooling
▪healthcare
▪types of holidays, activities and what to do
▪where to live
▪and so on

This is especially as the two people will be living a life together.
The lady really wants you

The man must not lead with his money, status, saying wants to have children etc.

Of course a degree of it is needed for the woman to find the man attractive, but more than a certain amount means that if the man leads with it, the woman probably wants him just for these things and not to have the man himself.

The man should be able to tell if the lady just wants him for these things.

It is very easy in the man’s eagerness for sex or to pull the woman to use these things as his primary bait for attracting the woman. The man finds out what the women wants and offers these things. However with modern divorce laws, the woman can get these things, divorce him and take these things from him to get them, but without him.

So the man needs to be careful that the woman really wants him for just him. He needs to have one the lady over with charm, romance, chivalry and his personality.

Normally split second comments, movements, expressions or gestures done by the lady will in time give the lady’s true intentions away. Intuition and feelings also mean that a man should be able to tell. However the hormones of ‘falling in love’ can cloud a lot of his judgement.

The man may even have to do tests like pretending has lost a lot of money, not wanting to have children, might be loosing his job and not able to get another one etc to be sure.

A man needs to insure that finds a lady who genuinely likes them and wants to take care of them. And lady who is a giving person and not just a taker.

The right person

When dating, the kind of conversation will determine the kind of lady the man gets. If you talk about superficial stuff, he will attract a superficial woman.

The lady also needs to be of a calibre and have interests that will keep him interested and engaged. If for example the man is a university professor, he needs to make sure he goes out with a lady who is of that type and as close as possible to himself. A waitress party girl maybe attractive and fun at first, but building a life together and lack of proper interesting conversation etc. means it will not last.

People do not change

People very rarely change, it takes lifetime, after lifetime after lifetime for people to change even a bit.

Please do not assume that a marriage, relationship, having children etc. will change the person.

Definitely do not go into a relationship to rescue somebody. Can rescue somebody outside a relationship, but then not be dragged down down by having a relationship with them, where they then have power over you and can wreck your life.

Once married
How to treat your partner

A wife needs to realise that if they are going to scream and shout at the man, they will blow out the light of love. This is because the man will associate their wife with being abused and have to put up a barrier to protect themselves from their wife. This of course means that love cannot flow.

People often think that once they are married it gets easier and they do not have to put in so much work anymore. Actually it gets more difficult and one has to put in more work to keep it alive, or the marriage will come to an end.

Marriage is hard, never take each other for granted, keep expressing that you love each other, buying presents and so on.

Even when having problems in life with money, work, dishwasher breaking down etc. Still need to spend time and energy doing fun things, giving thoughtful things to each other. Need to still show the lady how much you love her, be romantic etc.

A relationship is also ever changing, moving on and developing, is not just something that is created and stays the same.

Need to be careful is not just sexual attraction, need make sure you get on as friends. The sexual attraction can blind a person from judging if the other person is nice as a person and someone they actually get on with as a friend. You need to feel comfortable and happy with each other.

Great sex is also of course important.

Needs to be someone you have things in common with.

Need to listen to the lady, she may say that the man is not doing enough and she may (or may not) be right.
Care

Ultimately it only works if each person cares about the other and this is not just a sex thing.

They also have to value a partnership to go through life with and companionship and this is also not just a sex thing.

Compromise is also important, but as in all things, there are good and bad compromises.

The man puts the lady first

It is very easy for a man to stop putting the lady first. He may start putting work trips, social and other things before seeing her. Maybe even meaning they organise things such as when and where to do things. The lady will see this as not putting her first and will end a marriage.

So once married need to ensure still spending loads of time with your wife, or are being a bad husband.

Kindness

This section is what I learned from ‘Science says lasting relationships come down to 2 basic traits’.
The Atlantic, Emily Esfahani Smith, The Atlantic. It was also in Business Insider Magazine.

Interest in and support with in the other, who they are, what they do etc. Have to fulfil partner’s need for this.

Helps get trust and intimacy, which makes them more emotionally and so physically comfortable.

Otherwise deteriorates into fear of the other person and so aggression.

Much of it comes down to the spirit couples bring to the relationship. Do they bring kindness and generosity; or contempt, criticism, and hostility?

Must scan the partner for things they can appreciate and say thank you for. So building this culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully.

Must scan the partner for what the partner is doing right, respecting them and expressing appreciation.

People need to make their partner feel worth a lot, visible and valued.

Kindness, on the other hand, glues couples together. Kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated—feel loved.

There’s a great deal of evidence showing the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship.

In some people, the kindness ‘muscle’ is naturally stronger than in others, but it can grow stronger in everyone with exercise. A person has to exercise it to keep it in shape. They know, in other words, that a good relationship requires sustained hard work.

Need to be kind even when you are tired, stressed, or distracted, life is hard. Also even if in a fight with your partner.

If angry, say to partner why you are angry, because of what has happened to you, so they understand why you are angry, not just attack them.

A bad sign is if a couple cannot be happy together, shared joy, when one of them has a success. When one person says their good news, the other should stop what is doing and engage wholeheartedly with them, congratulating them and asking more about it.

Neglect creates distance between partners and breeds resentment in the one who is being ignored.

Tolerance

Need to be tolerant that you and your partner can be very different people, with different values, ideas, characteristics, natures etc.

This is fine as what matters are things that are important, examples are that they are loyal, will look after you etc.

Chasing and wooing the lady

The worst thing that a man can do is take the woman for granted, this can easily happen as the relationship goes on and on.

The man thinks he has her now and how does not have to put any effort and she will just stay around anyway. This can especially happened once married a think now have the person.

However the fairy tale for a girl is the man who loves the girl so much that will do anything for her, give her gifts and will do anything for her to be happy. The man loves her so much he is continually working out what new things and different he can do for her and does them. So the man man must do this everyday, otherwise for the girl it the feelings for him dies. Then the girl gets resentful at what a useless man she has.

Peace

Some people stop having a relationship with someone because they get bored.

However what about being at peace with someone?

They are actually stopping the relationship because they miss the adrenaline rush and excitement of chasing the person.

Stopping a relationship for this reason is self sabotage.

Keep it going

When you first meet there’s the loving connection.

Then it starts to get hard as you don’t have the same sexual interest in each other that you did when things were new, you can start to get bored with each other. Life can be difficult and you can get annoyed by things which can affect the relationship.

You have to make sure you don’t lose your temper and succumb to these things

So you keep being affectionate with your partner and appreciating them. Without this it will fall apart.

Women are not as driven by looks as men.

Women want:

▪A man who makes them feel good and beautiful, a lover.

A man loving them, makes them feel good and beautiful. The man does things for them because he loves them, become she is so wonderful.

▪The king of the jungle. Like the lion is the king of the jungle.

▪A man who is good in bed.

Behaviour

Girls do not want arrogant men. They want sweet, nice, kind and still masculine.

What women do not want

Freaks: guys who are into wierd stuff in their views and opinions, what they do, sex life and so on.

Nerds: guys who are ugly both in looks and behaviour, without skills such as courage, emotional intelligence, social skills and so on.

Playboys: men who just want to sleep with them, then as have no interest in a relationship will move on to another lady. Women of very wary of this and will do all they can to tell if a man is like this. For example women will make sure the man is really interested in them as a person, wants to spend time with them, does lots of things and so on before letting the man have sex with them.

Of course women want it to be that the man is turned on by them, attracted to them and really wants to have sex with them. However if the woman is not ready and comfortable to have it at that occasion, so early in the relationship, or the man does not also want a relationship with them and to be with them as a person. Then the woman feels cheap and used.

Other things women want

A man who is smart, this is both so they can be a good provider and so that they can stimulate the lady.

A man who is smart so can give them advice and who is right most of the time, but is not arrogant about it.

A man who is totally devoted to them.

A lot of women want a man who will look after them financially and emotionally. As the man is masculine he can be a rock that is fine through all sorts of emotional weather they may be going through. He can listen to them, support them, be there for them and will not get blown over. Whatever happens he will be there to support them, remain stable and okay. Many men think they have to show off, in fact they just have to be a strong, stable and there for the woman. With the man there, they will be okay.

Affection

This basically stems from loving them.

You hold that hands, you look at them like you love them, are gentle with them, have loving feelings towards them and all the things that express and show affection.

To women this is more important than sex, affection is really important.

The dynamics of male and female

Feminine energy is beautiful, wonderful, fantastic, fun, and so on. However it needs the masculine energy to be able to protect it so it can do and be these things.

So a woman will look for a secure man that will give them this security and protection, so they can be the best possible feminine energy.

If during the relationship the man doesn’t give them the security, such as being, a pushover, temperamental, unreliable, feeble, timid, and so on, then they will do not feel secure and they will leave the relationship.

The feminine may even come up against the masculine, try to push it around, test it and even push it around. Here the masculine must provode boundaries, so it can still provide security for the woman.

Of course the masculine needs to protect the woman, so she can be beautiful, wonderful and express her feminine energies.