Do things properly:

▪Stand straight, do not slouch.
▪Do proper, full, complete movements and gestures. Do not cut them off through embarrassment,  fear, nervousness, lazyness etc.
▪Speak fully and properly. Do not shorten or cut off your words and sentences. Speak fully, properly and clearly.
▪Think things through clearly, properly and to their end conclusion
▪Do things to do them properly, not just for show. For example do not sit up straight for show, do it to do it properly.
▪Do not do things by halves, do them properly.

However always make sure you are capable with things things for the right thing for God and other people.

Utimately it is thinking of others and doing things for others that will make you capable, because that is the highest motive.

Otherwise focusing on looking capable is just doing things for yourself. You will just be cold, selfish and no one will want to know you. This is because you are just appearing capable for yourself and selfish purposes. You are not giving and thinking of others!

Also people may hate you because they will be jealous and feel relatively small around you.

Also so that people can relate to you, it is also important to adapt so people can relate to you. Of you are more capable than them, then they will not be able to.

Also you may become stayed and boring, focusing on doing things properly is not being fun.

The secret to success in the universe is a person being true to themselves. So doing what works and is right for them, doing things in accordance to their nature, mission, destiny, there way of doing things.

Every person has a unique place, purpose and reason for being here. If a person this not do this things go badly until they eventually do what they are meant to be doing.

The universe has very different kinds of people, each has their own nature, destiny and being.

Each person has a role in the universe and if they do their job, what they are meant for, they will succeed, if not they are not made for this and will fail.

A very basic metaphor maybe if an introverted person who is good at detailed accounts, tries to be an extroverted sales person.  An extrovert sales person tries to do detailed accounting work.  Another is a cat trying to behave like a dog and the dog trying to behave like a cat.

A person’s makeup may not be for something that at that time makes them rich famous and powerful and this may make someone to do something different.  For example actors and actresses in the 20th century got these things, but in Roman times were the lowest of the low. The same sole could be an actor, but at that time it was not appreciated.

A person has to be brave enough to be themselves and not just try and fit in. People who will like you will like you, people who do not like you would have not liked you much anyway. If a person is not being themselves, they will come over as fake, not authentic, other people will think there is something wrong, but not know what it is.

There are people who will follow abd want things from and follow someone who is true to themselves. That is because they have something real,  genuine and unique to offer.

If a person is just fitting in and following others, there is nothing new and unique to offer.

People who do things to fit in, for example looking at what others do, to get their approval always look pathetic.  This is because they are timid to be doing this, look scarred and doing this means they are being controlled by others.

Ultimately if a person does things, some will benefit and some will loose. Some will hate it and some will not. Even if only 1% or 50% of people like it and so you, you only need the people who like what you do and you can ignore the rest. If you are doing what everyone approves of, you are probably doing nothing.

Some successful people accept that 50% will love what they do and 50% hate it, but they get their income from the percent that like it.

Being true to yourself socially

If not able to love yourself, then no one else would be able to love you.

So need to do good so that can love yourself, if not will try and compensate with showing off etc. which of course makes it worse as it is an even less good thing to do.

If a person does not think they are good, then will think that other people will not want them, then the person puts up walls so people not see who they really are, then the person cannot function and is not authentic so no one will will want the person.

So need to be yourself and know there is nothing wrong with who you are.

Being interesting socially

If a person is pretending to be something they are not, then they are not interesting to be with socially.

This is because their fakeness is like a blank sheet which diverts and covers up from the feelings, emotions, thoughts, spirit etc. that make a person human. This stuff means there is real and actual stuff to relate to, interact and be with. Otherwise they have covered up what is going on.

When people appear on a reality tv show, they normally start showing off, pretending they are nicer and greater than they are. The big issue is they are pretending to be something they are not.

It is only after a while when they have relaxed and got on with being real, that they start being more themselves, they let people see who they are, that things get interesting for other people to see and watch.

Only then can people get to know them.

How to progress

To be successful, need to become more you, yourself, what you really are.

That is because, it is what you really are, your talents, abilities, purpose etc.

People are persuaded by emotion, not by logic.  A person needs to put emotion and feeling into a speech for it to work.

A person also need to speak slowly so the emotion can come out. It is like playing a song, which of course will not work if play too quickly. The emotion and feelings are what matters and if a person rushes when they speak, the emotion in it will not happen. Then the beauty, power and interest will be lost.

If a person needs a lot from another person, that person will not want to be with them. It is a huge turn off when someone is needy and people will not want to be with them.

The person will feel and be able to tell that the other person needs these things from them and that is a big liability because the person needs these things so much.

People do not want to be friendly with needy people, because their needyness means they have to have things from other people. As a result they are taking from others and not giving.

It means that this other person wants to take and get this thing from others.

Needyness also makes a person look weak and pathetic because:
▪why do they not already have that thing?
▪why have other people not wanted to give it to them?
▪they are out of control, self control and pathetic, as they have to have it so much?
▪they are dependent on others as have to have these things, so in the hands of others. As a result others can control them.
▪they can be desperate and stressed about if they do not get them.

A person maybe needy because:
▪they have faults and need that person to compensate for those faults.
▪they do not have certain things in their life and need that person to fulfil them
▪they are greedy and selfish so have to have things to satisfy them.

Needy people have huge fear, anxiety and stress about getting the thing they need. This is also horrible and unpleasant for other people to be around.

Many times, the harder a person nervously chases something – the less likely they are to get it.

They may, in fact, actually drive it even further away.

Things a person may be needy for

Approval from others:

Makes a person pathetic, it is like they are a jigsaw puzzle with a bit missing and they have to suck in approval from others to get it. They look all over the place to see if people are giving approval, showing off to get approval from others and they look desperate. They look like they are not enough, do not have enough and do not think enough of themselves.

A person wanting this may also psychically transmit words and pictures to other people saying how wonderful and amazing they are except etc. All these things to get approval.

A person is only wanting approval from others as they do not approve of themselves. So the first cure is for a person to do things so that they approve of themselves.

Getting attention:

This is normally because the person is a nothing and has not achieved anything. The cure is to set about achieving things even small things which are based on reality.

A person may be so desperate for attention they do things to attract attention. That they might even do things that attract negative attention, like being bullied and other things, simply because they want attention so much.

Being reliant on getting approval from others

It needs to be that you don’t need the other person or people to think you’re great or good. You are just fine and happy with your life and how you are.

If you need other people around you to think you’re great, they won’t be so comfortable with you and they can’t depend and rely on you so much and have confidence as you are so needy. This is because they know you can only perform it if you have this from the people around you.

if people talk telling you you’re great, it doesn’t normally mean you’re great, it means they can tell you need to be told that.

Stress is very dangerous.

Stress on a physical level is a hormone and strain. On a psychological level is an energy, feeling and emotion.

Stress can lead to a stroke, heart attack etc

Stress is caused by doing things, so there will always be some stress.

The bigger or harder the thing, the more stress it will cause.

However stress is often accelerated by the person’s aim, attitude, why they are doing the thing, how they are doing it etc.

Causes of stress

Entertainment and stimulation:

People can get stressed purely for their own entertainment and so they do not get bored. Just like a person watches a television show with a drama, adventure and so on. Another example is driving down twisty, turny roads and driving dramatically for fun.

People make their life more dramatic, have dramatic thoughts and create dramatic situations for their own entertainment. Without this their lives are quite boring as there is no drama.

In this way people actually enjoy stress. It makes people feel alive and without it they feel dead. Then when a person looses their stress they feel sad that it has gone.

Thinking that what they are, have, could gain, could loose are really big. This is of course ego!

It is best for a person to focus on doing good for God and others. Not doing silly things like creating drama and so stress for their own entertainment.

Stress, a person not acting within their limitations. For example a person getting older and not realising their real age, so acting like they are younger than they are. This causes stress, uses up all their energy etc.

Turning energy into stress:

When a person receives energy from above, it is neutral and up to them what they do with it.

A person can decide to turn it into stress and create stress.

They choose to create stress energy.

Impossible aims:

An impossible aim maybe to do something:
▪more quickly than can be done
▪without paying tge proper price such as time, energy, learning, money etc.
▪bigger than what the person is currently capable of doing.
▪etc.

Doing something morally wrong or illegal

Can lead to huge stress and fear. Trying not to get found out and stave off unavoidable karma.

Competition

Also doing something impossible like win against an adversary who is better than you are, leads to huge stress.

Advantages of low stress

Low stress is important to look good in photos. Stress makes a person look rigid, ill, pale, unwell, unattractive, not nice to be around and unhealthy.

Stress means that the body cannot maintain itself as it is so busy with the stress. Small examples are hair loss, lack of appetite as cannot digest food properly and so on.

Low stress means people will like being with you and you will look good.

Problems that stress causes

Stress is very damaging.

Looks: A person with stress looks terrible, their skin colour is terrible facial expressions posture and everything is wrecked and destroyed by stress.

Health: stress is very dangerous for health, leading to strokes, heart attacks, massive weight loss and all kinds of other issues. It basically destroys the body.

Socially: People do not want to be around a person with stress, they do not want to be exposed to that energy. As the world is one it will come on to other people. They do not want that and will react to it. As they pick up your stress and become more stress themselves they will react and behave worse with you.

Mentally: a stressed person is all over the place, they cannot concentrate and perform. They are focused on the stress and not on the job. The stress just takes over and they cannot function

Cures for stress

1, Need to realise how dangerous, damaging and bad stress is. This means that when a person is in a situation that causes stress, they realise that however great what they will receive it from doing the stressful job, it is not worth it compared to the cost of stress.

They must then realise what the cost of stress are, which are highlighted above.

2,. Regularly monitor your stress by being conscious of it. Just by being conscious of it, the light of awakening means that it will be seen, so it will get sorted out.

Yes there are opportunities, but also be aware of your limitations.

Sadly when a person is the most stressed, they are less able and aware, so may even think they are less stressed than they really are. This is when electronic stress monitors are useful.

3, This is a big one! Become aware of, meditate and focus on the causes of stress. For example when going along in daily life, if notice a job comes up that will do within the next day and observe that your stress is increasing as a result of thinking about this or doing it. Then you can make changes needed to reduce stress, such as setting a new target of doing it in a longer time, or doing less of the job.

As a result of this and see what is causing stress.

Other things are:

Realise what you are, have, could gain, could loose are not really big. They are small relative to the rest of the world and also impermanent.

When a person thinks of the needs of welfare of others, they do things for others. This bebevolence overides and so stops the person being selfish.

Stress is often excessive because a person is being selfish and it comes from their selfish fear or desire.

If a person cares about the needs and welfare of other people, they realise that them being stressed is not good for others and is not helping them. It is an unpleasant energy and emotion that is not good for others.

For example it is important to give other people emotional support. This cannot be done when a person is stressed, because of negativity and horribleness of stress emotion and energy. When a person is stressed they are all over the place so cannot be supportive to others. By wanting to give others emotional support, it takes the person away from being stressed. This is because they focus on being things for others and not for themselves, as they are not so selfish.

4, When energy comes down it’s neutral, but it gets turned into lots of different kinds of things, sadness, hate, happiness and someone.

You can decide what energy types who would use if your energy. If you use stress, anger, sadness and so on, what kind of energy is you will use.

Choose not to get your energy from stress, it will be there and don’t repress it, but just don’t use it. As a result it will become less important and matter less.

When you have energy, all the different kinds of energies emotions and feelings, decide just to use the useful and good ones.

If a person has low self esteem and is insecure, they cannot cope with ideas different to their own, because they cannot cope with the fact that they might be wrong.

A fragile self-esteem makes people unable to cope to the slightest criticism, even if it would be constructive to them.

So to compensate they become narcissistic.

Then they tend to compensate with an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration.

They create this feke mask of ultra-confidence.

Such people also try and believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings.

A person with low self esteem also refuses to accept that someone else, or something else may be great. This is because, to feel better about themselves, they try and believe that everything else is rubbish. This means they loose out from enjoying other things and learning from them.

They chase after other people saying they are great, to compensate against the bigger truth that they themselves do not think that they are any good.

They go after wanting other people to think they are nice and great, status, show, ostentation, showy career and competition stuff.

However it is superficial and other people can tell it is fake, not real and the person is really empty and nothing.

The paradox is that this which is done to compensate makes it even worse as it is even more feke and superficial.

The person becomes obsessed by the mask, they focus even more on feking it, the superficial and so become even more empty.

The only real solution is for a person to be real, value other people, caring genuinely about other people, so become fuller and more real on the inside.

As the higher inner levels are more powerful and create the lower levels, the person comes more real on the outside. Also other people on their inside can tell that the person is real.

By working on real creation, things done regardless of show. Then there is a real base, depth and genuineness.

This leads to real self esteem as it is genuine construction and creation.

People who have genuinely achieved and created things, not superficial show, have nothing they have to prove to themselves and so not need to prove things to others. As a result they do not need and are not wanting compliments from others.

Not giving others power over your self esteem

A person has control over their self esteem. Other people cannot control it.

People can give control of their self esteem to others and not realise this in fact cannot be done. When a person does not give control of their self esteem to others, then ladies want to be with them as they are more together.

How to have self esteem

Self esteem is confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect.

It is primarily built in the first 7 years of life during your formative years by being in a loving and respectful environment.

You need to love yourself.

You need to respect yourself.

To be able to love yourself you need to be a person who loves others.

To respect yourself you need to be somebody who respects others.

Basically by being good then you can love and respect yourself because you are good person.

It takes time to build and change.

Having self-esteem will help you to be able to be good to others.

To become sane and psychologically develop, a person needs to be able to change their views.

Change is hard.

That is why most people only change when the pain caused by their old way is so great it is truly unbearable or the situation will result in their death.

They also need to be able to face the bad points, or dark parts of their psyche.  The rubbish, excrement and nasty bits of a person’s psyche are far more painful than physical pain of blood, guts and injury.

This is because the psychological world is so much bigger, greater and more potent than the physical world.

Also it is humiliating and injurous to a person’s pride to face their bad points, what they are wrong about and they have done wrong.

However these things are needed to be able to psychology progress and improve.

The older a person gets the more a person’s ego becomes more locked and fixed, so it is harder for them to change.   On a person’ s twenties it is quite easy, forties is harder and most people cannot do it in their seventies and especially in their eighties. This is unless change has been part of their way throughout their life, so their life is about change.

A person whose ego is too set and fixed so cannot change, they will have a hard time growing. They are already dead and thei funeral a mere detail.

How it works

If when dating a person is confident that they look good, then other people will think so too and want to go out with them.

If a person is socialising and that person is confident they are a great person to know then other people will think so too (so they believe that everyone wants to get to know them, thinks they are a great person to know. As people are sheep they think that if everyone else wants to know them then they must be a great person to know)

If a person is selling a product and is confident it is good, then other people will think it is good as well and will buy it.

If you are confident that you are rich then other people will think that you are rich too.

If a person is dating and is confident that they are appealing and good looking, then other people will too and they will do well dating. If for example a person has a lack of confidence with a certain feature about themselves, other people will have a problem with it too and it will draw attention to it.

This works because:
▪everything and all people are one, connected and together. So if you think something then others will too. Be careful not to abuse this!
▪if you believe it then you will act like it is so and other people will believe it. It will actually change how you act and behave.

Arrogance

Confidence is about a person knowing that they can do something, it is positive and about creating things.

Arrogance is about thinking about oneself relative to others, it is a selfish thing of thinking that one is better than others.

Ultimately a good person has confidence in others. A good person wants to help others by having confidence in them which helps the other person do well and and achieve things. So a good person looks up to others and thinks that they are great.

It is fine to be confident that you are great, but do not go down a dark selfish path of thinking you are better than others, think that others are rubbish or put other people down.

People will like you if you have confidence in them, look up to them and think they are great. People will hate you if you look down on them and think they are rubbish.

The dark side

Also be careful not to go into a fantasy world and loose contact with reality. The best thing is to be successful and these real successes will feed your confidence. If you are a failure this will destroy your confidence.

Success if done for oneself can also lead to arrogance or complacency, thinking that one is God’s gift to a organisation or whatever the person has been working with. Things are created, eminated and formed by God. If we do what is right then God makes it work. A person must never egotistically think that the success was all down to them.

The best way to be successful is to be good and not evil. Good deeds lead to greater success as they are deserved, as the deeds are all for God and for others. Service of God and so others also creates the rught perspective.

Good karma and doing good

You also need to be confident about others as this will have a good effect on them and they will really like it.

Having confidence in others also enables them to be great and do things they could not otherwise do. It creates goodwill which helps them to be constructive and brilliant.

By being confident in others, you will get the good karma of being confident in yourself.

Know who you are

Are person can be insecure and not confident because they do not know who they are.

Every person is created by God for a reason and has a place and purpose in the universe. Once a person knows who and what they are, then they can be confident because they know they
should be there and are valid.

Succeding

Confidence is essential in everything about person does. A person would not bother to do something, if they did not think there was a decent chance of succeeding.

People who are not confident in something are often not able to do something properly, as confidence is intrinsically needed for doing something.

For example if someone is not confident in how they present themselves, they will not present themselves well and it will show.

Signs a person does not have confidence

They need the approval of others attention from others. Ironically this makes a person more dependent on others and needy. So they are less interesting to others, less respectable and so they also get less respect and attention. A confident person does not mind if people do people do not notice, respect and agree with them.

They cannot accept criticism, even when it is true and the benevolently given.

They need status symbols

They cannot cope when someone else tries to take their girlfriend, a confident person would believe that she would rather be with them. For the same reason they cannot even cope if a girlfriend is hanging out and chatting with other people in case she goes off with someone else.

Doing things which are not right to get the approval and acceptance of others, like letting other people rip them off or take advantage of them.

Do unwarranted things to get the approval of bad people. This may mean doing things which are not necessary or are unjustified. For example saying sorry when have done nothing wrong, making themselves look stupid in front of others.

Blame other people when they themselves have got something wrong. They also cannot take the blame when they have done something wrong.

All these things to make the man less interesting, impressive and nice to be with.

When with other people and you get things wrong

In real life when gets things wrong, should apologise to others if it affects them. Be truthful and honest and pay for mistakes, otherwise will pay for them later.

However as a performer need people to think that material is good. Of course the best way to do it is to have good material and therefore be good. So will naturally build up confidence on the back of this reality.

For a performance, confidence is essential. Investors often do not understand the product they investing in, just base it on the confidence and certainty of the founders pitching to them.

The same can be so many other things such as music or comedy performances. The audience think that person is confident in their material, so it must be good.

However if the audience does not respond to the material and the performer panics, the audience will then panic and feel insecure as well. The audience is not able to enjoy it as they feel the nervousness and panic as well. Also the audience believes it is rubbish, as has had it confirmed to them by the performer.

The natural reaction is for the performer to get nervous, panic and speak faster etc. So the performer must learn as a reaction to become completely calm and relaxed.

They speak even slower than before, etc. Deep slow breathing is also good as the body effects the psyche, as everything in the universe is one.

Done correctly, the audience will think that the material must be good and they just do not understand it, because the performer is so calm and relaxed about it. So the performer is so calm and confident about it, that it must be good.

Speaking slowly and not rushing

For comedians, if a joke is going badly then it can be tempting for them to speed up to get to the punchline.

It’s best to slow down in those situations, so the audience see that you’re confident. The audience think it must be good because you’re confident in it and so they think it’s good as well.

Speaking slowly shows you have confidence, you have the time to do things and don’t need to rush them.

Connect to people on a human level, connect to their humanity.   Everyone has a human nature to them and appealing to their consciousness helps to do this.

A person will do far more for people who have done this with them.

Appreciation

People will perform best for you, when they feel they are appreciated.

If you push them, they will want to push back out of revenge and will want to destroy you.