Approaching women

Approaching women in public places

Men who ‘hunt and fish’ are the ones who get.

If it is a place where men do not approach women such is on the train, bus, pavement, or shopping centre. It is essential that the woman feels safe.

It is what you do, how you say things, which is more important than the words you say.

Your opening line must not be about or relate to anything personal to them, or about anything they own. If you go up to them and say anything about a personal possession they have such as an electronic item, or their handbag, they will run away for fear you will want to steal it. This may sound obsessive, but even a mention of a personal possession, leads to an area that leads to this subject matter where there is this fear.

Even a joke that you are not a stalker or something, no matter how silly will trigger a fear as it is even being mentioned as a thought or possibility. So never go anywhere near such a thing, or even joking about it.

How to start

What you do is the most important, more than what you say. It is also how you say it, more than the words themselves This shows what you are and how you are.

Can start just by looking at the woman giving her love, she will see that you love her, think she is beautiful and if you have the right feelings then she will pick that up as well. You are giving her love.

She will notice you and from this, she may be interested and even look back.

If it is a public place and you are a stranger, she may not look back at you and express her interest. Then you may have to start talking to her for a while she she discoverers that you are not a weirdo and are okay.

Give not take, serve the lady

You give love, showing through body language, feelings and emotions, how much you love her. You really have to have and generate those feelings, cannot fake it.

To do this the man has to serve the woman, without thinking of what is going to get back.

If the man is thinking about what he will get back, such as if the woman will like him or anything selfish, then the free flow of love does not happen. For example if the man is not wanting complments back, or the lady to have to communicate how great he is.

If the man is worrying about what he gets back it is the same.

If this happens, the man is wanting something from the lady, which is not so interesting or nice for the lady.

It can also lead to an existance, feel, or look of forcefulness from the man that he wants something back which is also not nice for the lady.

Focus on the giving, not the reward.

It must be the man is giving and the lady to give back only if she wants to, but not because the man has asked for it.

The man needs to be focused on serving the lady and what she gets. He does this because he loves her and cares about her.

It must be okay for the lady if the man loves her and lady does not love man back, she is not forced into anything. The lady has received the compliment that she is lovely, wonderful, beautiful, that the man really likes her and will like that.

There is no threat as the man does not want anything, the lady is just receiving.

Of course it is open for the lady to give back if she wants to and of course the man would like that.

A lady will always like a man who says she is lovely, beautiful and communicates this with feelings and truth, for a lady it is the ultimate compliment. Ladies love compliments about how beautiful and lovely they are.

If it is just words saying this, but the man is actually just take the lady can tell this. To do this it needs to be that the man has a good soul, heart and is genuinely sincere.

The man is giving love

The man who cannot feel, angry or negative anything like that. The lady will then get those negative emotions, even if the man is trying to cover it up. She will respond badly to the man as she will become angry and negative conceiving energies, also she not be nice back out of revenge for her having been received those nasty energies.

If the man is happy, full of love and giving love, the lady will herself become full of love, be happy and also cannot help like a man for giving her those energies.

If the man has negative energies and tries to cover it up by smiling, it will not matter. It is what is really happening underneath that matters.

Immediate love

It must be the man thinks she is beautiful, wonderful, amazing, fantastic as soon as he sees her.

The man is overwhelmed by how wonderful and amazing she is. The man is not distracted by, or thinking about anything else.

It must be not be that when he first sees her, does not really notice her, think she is amazing or looks elsewhere. The lady wants to think that he really loves her and this must not be tarnished. This is because in nature the woman needs the man to love her so he will hunt, fight and protect for her. If this is not perfect then he will not do that and she will feel insecure. A look that is less than being in awe of her, will be seen by her as a moment of doubt not love from the man, or disinterest and make her less interested in the man.

The man has to be in awe and amazement of her and cannot have moments which take away from that.

So it is from how the man feels, looks at her, facial and bodily expressions, tones of voice and so so that he really loves her.


This is a huge deal to a lady. Women want a man that wants to make love to them, pushes them up against the wall and kisses them, because he wants them so much.

However consent is a woman’s biggest power, the ability to say and express no.

Never go anywhere near even close to not letting a woman have consented to say no and always give her the consent for you to do, or not do things.

Always have it when going up to women and in all stages of your relationship, that the woman chooses if she gives her consent and so you only do things with her consent.

This is both because for women this is their power and they enjoy that. Also women have it as their own self defence.

Doing things without consent is rape and women go so far away from this line with good reason. Women are very cautious because of the history and vulnerability men raping women so much. It is important in a relationship to always have it there, he only does it uf she gives her consent, or it will never happen!

Valuing the lady

Women do not want to feel like the man is just hunting, like the man and woman are just animals, flesh and the man is just marking out their territory.

A woman wants to be valued as a beautiful being and have a man who loves them and makes love to them.


At the beginning going up to a girl in a public place, she naturally and justifiably will be suspicious of a stranger.

Need to deliver your lines with confidence and see it through without giving up. So eventually get to a point where they see you are not just some creepy guy, but are okay.


The primary reason why men do not often go up to women in public and women may not like it. Is because of safety.

The girl rejecting or repulsing the man because they do not feel safe, as the man is a stranger.

It is important for men to remember, that when women go in tonight clubs, they are often groped, touched and so on with men put their hands on them. This makes women especially cautious and concerned.

At all points, the man should always make sure the women feels she has a route to go away from you, you are not within reaching distance so cannot touch them. The woman also has an easy escape route to easily get away from the man and go away.

The man should always give them an out of a way of ending the conversation, for example expressing that they understand if they are busy and want to read a book or something.

The man may feel that this will make the woman end the conversation, but because she has a way out, she feels safe, so will be more likely and happy to do it and continue speaking with you, because she has this way of getting out of it.

Woman from a safety point of view, want it that the man is looking to see if they are interested and will leave them alone if they want to be left alone. Women though often expect the man just to know though, even if they do not communicate anything, so the man has to be very aware.

It needs to be the girl speaks with the man, because the man is a good opportunity for her, not because she in any way feels forced to. The man is giving to her, not taking to her.

Then she can stop if she would like to, This is not just moral, but if she has the freedom and it is her choice, she will enjoy and want to talk with you more.

Girls like it when men show how much they like them, are flirtatious and affectionate. This may seem girly and boring to guys, but it is what women want. Women like cuddles, affection, romance, kissing etc., men often do not do this enough as they find this boring and just want sex.

Men may want to have sex here and now, but women often just want to have fun, talk, dance and joke. They just like it that the man wants to be with them all the time. That is why woman want a man with a personality, who is fun and interesting.

When this is done over a long period of time, the girl will relax, want the man and get the girl turned on, so she will and soft and want to have sex with a man.

When the woman wants to have sex with the man, they want it to be that the man cannot resist them, but as women are very emotional, they want it to be only when they want to have sex.

They do not want to have the interference of a man wanting to have sex with them, when they do not want sex. Doing it when they do not want sex will repel them.

However women always like flirtation, affection, love, hugs and kisses.

The compliment

Women want to be beautiful, perceived as beautiful. Women put a huge amount of energy and effort into achieving this, it is very important to them.

If man thinks expreses love towards her, that she is incredibly beautiful.
That in itself is something that will be interesting to the lady.

The man does not even verbally have to say anything, just look at her like she is incredibly beautiful and express love for her.

She will love that.

Women not being seductive to the man

With some women they often may not express that they want a man, but subconsciously they really do. This is because they may expect the man to be interested in them so much, that the man knows what the woman wants. They expect the man to do everything for them and they have to do nothing. They are then of course disappointed and upset when the man has not approached them.

This can be because they are just selfish and feel overly entitled, so did you not do anything.

It can also be because their first male role model of their father, did everything for them and they had to do nothing, so they are replicating that.

That is why the man may find that when they have done nothing, the woman no longer wants to talk with them or is unhappy with them. It is because the man has not done anything.

According to nature, it should be that the man goes up to the woman and chases them. The the women wants this however it is the women that make themselves attractive so the man is attracted to them. Of course if the woman does not want this, the man should go away.

Women who are clever will use body language, be open etc., to show the man that if he comes up to them, he will be successful.


Women are always being careful and cautious to make sure the man is not a creep.

Men may say that they are a model scout and they could be a model and all that rubbish. They are the look out for tricks that men may use.

So it needs to be that a man wants to spend time with her, for her to see if she is right for him. There are no tricks.

Basically that the man really cares about her and wants to spend time with her and be with her.

Then women over time will test to ensure that the man really does care and wants to be with her.


Men out of ego may want to show off to the girl, impress her and so on.

This can lead to him showing off, for example that he has a big car and so on. All this is of no interest to the girl as she probably has no interest in cars, also him showing off is just for him and not for her.

The women is interested in what he does for her and will do for her. She wants a man who listens to her, what she has to say, not a man that talks about himself.

So the man has to be looking at serving and elevating the girl, not just lifting up himself. He only lifts himself up, in order to better able to be great for her.

Be nice and respectful

Women want it that the man is nice to them, he says ‘hi’, asks how they are and treats them nicely.

You talk with them and show your personality.

Doing dodgy weird tricks to approach and talk to them just makes you look dodgy and weird.

The worst thing is ‘cat calling’ where the man just shouts something like saying they’re sexy, whistles at them, or says something in a foul and disrespectful way. That’s just the man selfishly wanting things because he’s horny.

Women want romance, so if you’re going to talk about sex at the start using vulgar words it won’t go down well.

Women want romance, so be romantic, although of course still need to be masculine.

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