The secret to success in the universe is a person being true to themselves. So doing what works and is right for them, doing things in accordance to their nature, mission, destiny, there way of doing things.

Every person has a unique place, purpose and reason for being here. If a person this not do this things go badly until they eventually do what they are meant to be doing.

The universe has very different kinds of people, each has their own nature, destiny and being.

Each person has a role in the universe and if they do their job, what they are meant for, they will succeed, if not they are not made for this and will fail.

A very basic metaphor maybe if an introverted person who is good at detailed accounts, tries to be an extroverted sales person.  An extrovert sales person tries to do detailed accounting work.  Another is a cat trying to behave like a dog and the dog trying to behave like a cat.

A person’s makeup may not be for something that at that time makes them rich famous and powerful and this may make someone to do something different.  For example actors and actresses in the 20th century got these things, but in Roman times were the lowest of the low. The same sole could be an actor, but at that time it was not appreciated.

A person has to be brave enough to be themselves and not just try and fit in. People who will like you will like you, people who do not like you would have not liked you much anyway. If a person is not being themselves, they will come over as fake, not authentic, other people will think there is something wrong, but not know what it is.

There are people who will follow abd want things from and follow someone who is true to themselves. That is because they have something real,  genuine and unique to offer.

If a person is just fitting in and following others, there is nothing new and unique to offer.

People who do things to fit in, for example looking at what others do, to get their approval always look pathetic.  This is because they are timid to be doing this, look scarred and doing this means they are being controlled by others.

Ultimately if a person does things, some will benefit and some will loose. Some will hate it and some will not. Even if only 1% or 50% of people like it and so you, you only need the people who like what you do and you can ignore the rest. If you are doing what everyone approves of, you are probably doing nothing.

Some successful people accept that 50% will love what they do and 50% hate it, but they get their income from the percent that like it.

Being true to yourself socially

If not able to love yourself, then no one else would be able to love you.

So need to do good so that can love yourself, if not will try and compensate with showing off etc. which of course makes it worse as it is an even less good thing to do.

If a person does not think they are good, then will think that other people will not want them, then the person puts up walls so people not see who they really are, then the person cannot function and is not authentic so no one will will want the person.

So need to be yourself and know there is nothing wrong with who you are.

Being interesting socially

If a person is pretending to be something they are not, then they are not interesting to be with socially.

This is because their fakeness is like a blank sheet which diverts and covers up from the feelings, emotions, thoughts, spirit etc. that make a person human. This stuff means there is real and actual stuff to relate to, interact and be with. Otherwise they have covered up what is going on.

When people appear on a reality tv show, they normally start showing off, pretending they are nicer and greater than they are. The big issue is they are pretending to be something they are not.

It is only after a while when they have relaxed and got on with being real, that they start being more themselves, they let people see who they are, that things get interesting for other people to see and watch.

Only then can people get to know them.

How to progress

To be successful, need to become more you, yourself, what you really are.

That is because, it is what you really are, your talents, abilities, purpose etc.

People are persuaded by emotion, not by logic.  A person needs to put emotion and feeling into a speech for it to work.

A person also need to speak slowly so the emotion can come out. It is like playing a song, which of course will not work if play too quickly. The emotion and feelings are what matters and if a person rushes when they speak, the emotion in it will not happen. Then the beauty, power and interest will be lost.

If a person needs a lot from another person, that person will not want to be with them. It is a huge turn off when someone is needy and people will not want to be with them.

The person will feel and be able to tell that the other person needs these things from them and that is a big liability because the person needs these things so much.

People do not want to be friendly with needy people, because their needyness means they have to have things from other people. As a result they are taking from others and not giving.

It means that this other person wants to take and get this thing from others.

Needyness also makes a person look weak and pathetic because:
▪why do they not already have that thing?
▪why have other people not wanted to give it to them?
▪they are out of control, self control and pathetic, as they have to have it so much?
▪they are dependent on others as have to have these things, so in the hands of others. As a result others can control them.
▪they can be desperate and stressed about if they do not get them.

A person maybe needy because:
▪they have faults and need that person to compensate for those faults.
▪they do not have certain things in their life and need that person to fulfil them
▪they are greedy and selfish so have to have things to satisfy them.

Needy people have huge fear, anxiety and stress about getting the thing they need. This is also horrible and unpleasant for other people to be around.

Many times, the harder a person nervously chases something – the less likely they are to get it.

They may, in fact, actually drive it even further away.

Things a person may be needy for

Approval from others:

Makes a person pathetic, it is like they are a jigsaw puzzle with a bit missing and they have to suck in approval from others to get it. They look all over the place to see if people are giving approval, showing off to get approval from others and they look desperate. They look like they are not enough, do not have enough and do not think enough of themselves.

A person wanting this may also psychically transmit words and pictures to other people saying how wonderful and amazing they are except etc. All these things to get approval.

A person is only wanting approval from others as they do not approve of themselves. So the first cure is for a person to do things so that they approve of themselves.

Getting attention:

This is normally because the person is a nothing and has not achieved anything. The cure is to set about achieving things even small things which are based on reality.

A person may be so desperate for attention they do things to attract attention. That they might even do things that attract negative attention, like being bullied and other things, simply because they want attention so much.

Being reliant on getting approval from others

It needs to be that you don’t need the other person or people to think you’re great or good. You are just fine and happy with your life and how you are.

If you need other people around you to think you’re great, they won’t be so comfortable with you and they can’t depend and rely on you so much and have confidence as you are so needy. This is because they know you can only perform it if you have this from the people around you.

if people talk telling you you’re great, it doesn’t normally mean you’re great, it means they can tell you need to be told that.

Stress is very dangerous.

Stress on a physical level is a hormone and strain. On a psychological level is an energy, feeling and emotion.

Stress can lead to a stroke, heart attack etc

Stress is caused by doing things, so there will always be some stress.

The bigger or harder the thing, the more stress it will cause.

However stress is often accelerated by the person’s aim, attitude, why they are doing the thing, how they are doing it etc.

Causes of stress

Entertainment and stimulation:

People can get stressed purely for their own entertainment and so they do not get bored. Just like a person watches a television show with a drama, adventure and so on. Another example is driving down twisty, turny roads and driving dramatically for fun.

People make their life more dramatic, have dramatic thoughts and create dramatic situations for their own entertainment. Without this their lives are quite boring as there is no drama.

In this way people actually enjoy stress. It makes people feel alive and without it they feel dead. Then when a person looses their stress they feel sad that it has gone.

Thinking that what they are, have, could gain, could loose are really big. This is of course ego!

It is best for a person to focus on doing good for God and others. Not doing silly things like creating drama and so stress for their own entertainment.

Stress, a person not acting within their limitations. For example a person getting older and not realising their real age, so acting like they are younger than they are. This causes stress, uses up all their energy etc.

Turning energy into stress:

When a person receives energy from above, it is neutral and up to them what they do with it.

A person can decide to turn it into stress and create stress.

They choose to create stress energy.

Impossible aims:

An impossible aim maybe to do something:
▪more quickly than can be done
▪without paying tge proper price such as time, energy, learning, money etc.
▪bigger than what the person is currently capable of doing.
▪etc.

Doing something morally wrong or illegal

Can lead to huge stress and fear. Trying not to get found out and stave off unavoidable karma.

Competition

Also doing something impossible like win against an adversary who is better than you are, leads to huge stress.

Advantages of low stress

Low stress is important to look good in photos. Stress makes a person look rigid, ill, pale, unwell, unattractive, not nice to be around and unhealthy.

Stress means that the body cannot maintain itself as it is so busy with the stress. Small examples are hair loss, lack of appetite as cannot digest food properly and so on.

Low stress means people will like being with you and you will look good.

Problems that stress causes

Stress is very damaging.

Looks: A person with stress looks terrible, their skin colour is terrible facial expressions posture and everything is wrecked and destroyed by stress.

Health: stress is very dangerous for health, leading to strokes, heart attacks, massive weight loss and all kinds of other issues. It basically destroys the body.

Socially: People do not want to be around a person with stress, they do not want to be exposed to that energy. As the world is one it will come on to other people. They do not want that and will react to it. As they pick up your stress and become more stress themselves they will react and behave worse with you.

Mentally: a stressed person is all over the place, they cannot concentrate and perform. They are focused on the stress and not on the job. The stress just takes over and they cannot function

Cures for stress

1, Need to realise how dangerous, damaging and bad stress is. This means that when a person is in a situation that causes stress, they realise that however great what they will receive it from doing the stressful job, it is not worth it compared to the cost of stress.

They must then realise what the cost of stress are, which are highlighted above.

2,. Regularly monitor your stress by being conscious of it. Just by being conscious of it, the light of awakening means that it will be seen, so it will get sorted out.

Yes there are opportunities, but also be aware of your limitations.

Sadly when a person is the most stressed, they are less able and aware, so may even think they are less stressed than they really are. This is when electronic stress monitors are useful.

3, This is a big one! Become aware of, meditate and focus on the causes of stress. For example when going along in daily life, if notice a job comes up that will do within the next day and observe that your stress is increasing as a result of thinking about this or doing it. Then you can make changes needed to reduce stress, such as setting a new target of doing it in a longer time, or doing less of the job.

As a result of this and see what is causing stress.

Other things are:

Realise what you are, have, could gain, could loose are not really big. They are small relative to the rest of the world and also impermanent.

When a person thinks of the needs of welfare of others, they do things for others. This bebevolence overides and so stops the person being selfish.

Stress is often excessive because a person is being selfish and it comes from their selfish fear or desire.

If a person cares about the needs and welfare of other people, they realise that them being stressed is not good for others and is not helping them. It is an unpleasant energy and emotion that is not good for others.

For example it is important to give other people emotional support. This cannot be done when a person is stressed, because of negativity and horribleness of stress emotion and energy. When a person is stressed they are all over the place so cannot be supportive to others. By wanting to give others emotional support, it takes the person away from being stressed. This is because they focus on being things for others and not for themselves, as they are not so selfish.

4, When energy comes down it’s neutral, but it gets turned into lots of different kinds of things, sadness, hate, happiness and someone.

You can decide what energy types who would use if your energy. If you use stress, anger, sadness and so on, what kind of energy is you will use.

Choose not to get your energy from stress, it will be there and don’t repress it, but just don’t use it. As a result it will become less important and matter less.

When you have energy, all the different kinds of energies emotions and feelings, decide just to use the useful and good ones.