Experience

People are here to get experience from which learn from, we are in a school and learning how to get to the next level.

For example that war is bad as people loose their lives and loved ones.

The only real way to learn is experiencing things.

A person can have the information, but the only real way to learn is to experience it. Then a person also learns what direction to go in.

For example a person can read a text book on how to swim, but only once done it, do they know what it is like with the waves splashing against their face, other people jumping into the water etc.

A person starts is innocent in their first incarnation, this does not mean they are good and bad. They get karma for their good and bad actions.

An innocent person tends to go along with what they are told and so are accordingly sometimes good and sometimes bad.

They fall for the lies told by others and fall into the trap of being tempted to behave badly as they do not know better.

They have not yet done enough to have seen the consequences and experienced the results.

Experience leads to a person becoming wise. That is why a person has to do a lot, experience different things and take risks in trying things that are new, going to harder levels etc.

The best way to learn is from the experience of others, but need a high level of consciousness, awareness, observation, empathy etc to do this as then really experiencing, seeing, and feeling what other people do.

Need to take heed of the old and mature souls of the past, present and future, who warn, phrophesise and give guidance to every generation based on laws of karma and Divine principles.

When a person meditates, they actually have to experience what they become aware of. That experience becomes part of them, so they can change. To advance a person who has to experience it, not just read it in text books or think about it.

By being mindful and aware, a person can learn far more from their experiences. They can see that when they did not act morally, things did not go well and so regret it. Without being aware and mindful they would not have seen, experienced and so learned from it so much.

Young souls

As a person gets more experience they see, experience and realise that

•Everything they do has consequences

•They are not the center of the universe. They are infinitely small compared to God and nothing relative to the other 6 billion people in the universe.

Competition

Co operation always wins over co operation, because of the evils of putting others down, that can come from competition.

However competition is better than doing nothing.

It can be right that the person who is best should be doing it and that is the positive side of competition. The best thing is if people do the best they can for others, but only one person can be the leader or do certain jobs, so naturally the person who is best has to be chosen for the sake of the people receiving the benefit of that service.

However the aim is to do the right thing for others and not just to try and acquire. This is the correct choosing of a person when done ethically.

A person’s selfish motive to compete can be:

To be the person that gets the customer and so makes money.
To show to yourself and others that are the best and these competitions can be a way that businesses motivate their staff. The status of being the best. This can infatuate people though to work excessively hard. It can also make people go too far in order to be the top dog, such as dong something too risky or immoral.

Confucious

Things I learned from Confucious ‘The Analects’

To be moral, need to have a sense of shame when done something wrong.

The only purpose a person can have, or worthwhile thing can do, is to become as good a person as possible. Persued for it’s own sake, without thought of reward; success or failure. This takes a great deal of hard work and cultivation.

A complete man ‘remembers what is right at the sight of profit’ and ‘is ready to lay down his life in the face of danger’

It is benevolence that makes a man a gentleman. Benevolence also makes a man free from worries and fears.

The best guide to conduct ‘Do not impose on others, what you yourself do not desire’. What would you like or dislike if were the receiving person.

To be moral a person needs to overcome themselves (self interest) and do the right actions. Self interest is the most persistent, insidious and persistent thing that stops a person being moral.

Not possible to work with mean (selfish, not benevolent) people in service of the Lord. They do not get the wealth or position they crave, as they do not deserve it. They worry they will not get it, once have it worry will loose it, once at that stage will not stop at anything to have these things.

If a person is benevolent, benevolence is a thing that a person has. A person builds it up and grows it.

Very hard to maintain benevolence, even the great normally only manage it for short periods.

Practicing benevolence is a heavy burden, but every man has the strength to do it. By a person thinking they cannot do it, they have set their limit before they even try.

As soon as want to be benevolent it is there, it is not far away, the question is if people really want it.

By thinking of something it is there.

Man of wisdom never in two minds, man of benevolence never worries, man of courage is never afraid.

Man of wisdom knows what is morally right and what is not (especially things that appear right when they are not)

Knowledge of men, means being good judge of people’s character, this is is how to predict their future.

A teacher must be honest about what they do not know and not pass anything on that they have not tried out themselves.

Courage means a person can do what is right when they see it and not leave it undone, but courage without morality will mean the person just carries out evil.

A person must live up to their words, best to do the action before making the claim.

Being respectful of others, is the best way to prevent others from disrespecting you.

By a person being respectful with others, others will be respectful to him and not disrespectful to him.

Learning stops a person being foolish.

He mentions the Decree of Heaven: heaven cares profoundly about the welfare of the common people, a person is set up by heaven to fulfil that purpose. As soon as he forgets that function and begins to do things for his own sake, heaven removes his decree and will bestow it on someone more worthy. A person should be in awe of this.

With regards to self interest, profit and rightness are in opposition to each other.

A person’s destiny will determine their lifespan, wealth and honour. No human persuit, effort or speculation can change this so is not a proper object of persuit. What is in the domain of destiny should be left alone.

We should obey heaven’s way, that is somerhing we should follow.

Morality is the only object a person should persue, being moral lies in making a moral effort and not in the success or failure of the person’s actions.

Do the work without thinking of the salary may get for it. Shameful for a person to be making saleries their sole object.

When ‘the way of heaven’ and morality is being followed in government, then should be in it and the person should be wealthy in it. Should speak with high mindedness.

When the way of heaven is not being followed in government, as then can only be there if bends ones principles and will also be a nasty place of humiliation and punishment. In this case, the person must leave and keep out of trouble as a private citizen, so not have to bend their morals. To stay out of trouble people must think you are the most stupid, lacking confidence, self effacing, not attract attention to oneself.

So in times of an ethical government a person will succeed in government because they do good. That is what the government has chosen.

In times of an unethical government it is the bad people who will be wealthy and given high rank.

The common people trust the government if they get enough food and arms.

When the common people do not trust a government, they have nothing to stand on. It is more important that the military defenses and food.

Setting an example

Edicts and punishments will get the people to stay out of trouble, but will have no sense of shame.

Guide them by virtue, keep them in line with the rites, they will have a sense of shame and reform themselves. To do this the ruler sets a moral example for the people, by behaving correctly. Then never have to use the law and threat of punishment.

The people will imitate their leaders even if told not to do something different.

If the leader sets a moral example, the people will do the right thing even though no orders are given.

If people told by leader to be moral, but leader themselves is immoral, the people will do immoral things.

If people told by leader to be immoral, but leader themselves us moral, the people will still do moral things.

If the leader sets a bad example, the people will do the wrong thing, even though orders have been given to the contrary.

If a person punished for something the leader has themselves done, the person will be aware of the injustice.

People may not be be able to perceive the morality in a leader, but they will still be influenced by it, behave in accordance to it and so be moral.

The leader does not even have to do things that the people could not even say what he had done, the moral influence works imperceptibly.

A leader has to promote the straight people to positions of authority over the crooked, will help make the crooked straight.

Other things

Music and poetry need to be beautiful, but it is the goodness in it that makes it amazing and goes beyond expectations.

Pleasure is fine, but it is excessive pleasure that causes the problems.

Detest clever talkers who overturn states and noble families. Also things which look good on the outside, but it is only on the outside, so misleading and not genuine.

A person should seek benevolence. If they get it, they will have no complaints. It is the gaining of the benevolence that makes them benevolent.

Practicing doing things, enables a person to become a better person morally.

Must learn from the wise men of the past and present.

The morally right thing to do changes in different time periods, new rules must be added and others omitted. This makes a person’s actions timely.

A moral principle, for example respect, leads to rules, these lead to actions that exemplify those rules. How good the rules are, is shown by how well the moral principles are performed.

Need thinking to see connections between things which at first seem unconnected. Also to discover new applications for known principles, so when learn one thing, can understand ten.

Need to perfect one’s own moral character by being benevolent to other people and working for the welfare of the common people. The reward is not getting things in return, it is in doing what is good and this constitutes the joy of following the Way.

Confuscious

Studying is hard and arduous and never finished, but:
●needed to overcome being vexed by difficulties
●needed to know why to follow a certain path, otherwise just doing what told without knowing why

Study needs a person to have the capacity, opportunity (time) and be able to put up with the hardship.

Admire people who only have a bowl of rice and ladle of water, but not allow this to affect their joy

Only praise someone once they have been put to the test, for example did a ruler manage to promote the welfare of the common people.

BDSM sex

How to ensure is good for the woman, what she wants

Women like it as it is the man being forceful, assertive, in charge

They do not like it if the man is being nasty, spiteful, hateful,

It is basically a man being a real man, taking control.

Women want the man to do the things to them, be the one doing it.

Women like it when the man:

1, loves the woman and wants to give her pleasure
2, Is doing it because the man wants them, has to have them, has to have sex with them.
3, wants them

So the woman will not like it if 1, 2 & 3 are not there. Such as if the man calls them a bitch, slut, says wants to f**k her etc.

About 25% of women like it, others do it just because they know their man likes it.

It can be a dark thing where the women was abused or raped when younger and they are continuing this habit. This is a bad thing and needs therapy.

For men it can be a way of being aggressive, like how sports are used as a channel to stop actual damaging violence in society. So it is fine if consenting and does not get out of hand!

Being good at sex (for men)

It is important to hold,, hug, kiss and touch her like you love her.

Breasts and bottom are ergogenic zones that are good to pay more attention to. She will also love you kissing down the sides and from sides of her neck.

The clitorus should be the last place to touch and lick because it’s very sensitive and not nice for a lady if they are not relaxed, warmed up and ready for it.

Touch all other parts of her body so the desire grows and only then touch the vagina. Then she can get several clitoris orgasms in a row.

Being masculine

Women when it comes to sex want the man to manhandle them. The man to position them, instigated doing stuff and do the stuff to them. The man is meant to know what the woman wants and do it to her. The man takes charge, dominates the the woman and does the stuff.

Women want the man to be in charge. However of course it is for the woman to consent to this, or it is rape. Also it is for the woman to be soft and nurturing with this as that is how it works.

The woman is attracting him, so they want to be so attractive that the man wants them, wants to do stuff to them and cannot resist her.

Romance

Sex for women is mostly about being loved and cared for by a man, the man wants to please and love them. So it takes ages to get a woman to want sex, but after lots of showing that you love them, care for them cuddling and so on they will be attracted to you and want sex with you.

To a woman 80% of it is about having a man love them, cuddle them and care for them. If they have an evening in bed with a man and all they do is cuddle, that is a successful and lovely time. For a man sadly he just wants to penetrate and put his seed in her, the women will be upset if he says that to her.

The woman wants to feel special which is why they want it to be that the man is monogamous to them and only wanting sex with them. If the man is having sex with other women it means to a lady that she is not special.

If one evening they do not want sex, lots of showing that you love them, then cuddling them, then eventually if they are happy with it gentle caressing and stroking their body to show that you care for them, should turn them on so they want sex.

For women each time they have sex with a man, they feel more and more connected with him. Women want that connection, to feel loved, wanted, intimacy.

They want sex to mean something, deep feelings that the man loves her.

For women it is a special thing, they are letting a man into them, they feel vulnerable and wary to fall in love with the man. The more the man makes love to them, the more they open up and fall in love with him.

Women take time to ‘warm up’

Even if a woman is attracted to a man, they will not want to have sex with him for many weeks, or months until they feel very comfortable with him.

However if they want to have him, they know they will have to have sex with him on the second, or third date to keep him interested. They may do it, in order to get the man for a permanent relationship, even if they do not want to have sex with him so quickly into the relationship.

However once they are warmed up and feel comfortable with a man, they will want sex a lot, possibly even more than the man does.

The more relaxed a woman is with a man, the easier it is for them to have an orgasm and good sex.

Male sex drive

Women want a man who is strong and masculine, with masculine energy. A man needs to be sexual or there is nothing for them ro be attracted to.

Men just want to put that seed into a lady, if sex is 20 seconds it is great for them.

However women like sex to be as long as possible, slow gentle foreplay and so on, for an hour or even more. This will become boring for a man because he just wants to put his seed in her.

The man likes to be forceful and aggressive because that is hard strong masculine energy.

However women are delicate, sensitive and want him to be gentle when having sex with them. They want it to be that as he loves them, he does not want to hurt them.

Women are soft and sensitive, so want to be treated very gently, especially to avoid any pain as they are so sensitive.

Pleasure is receiving gentle caressing and kissing, hard pressing hurts, especially as they are so sensitive in their erogenous zones. Of course it needs to be done in a strong way, from a strong masculine man, or there is no sexual attraction or pleasure.

Remember though to still keep your masculinity and sexuality of being a man, men want to be hard and forceful when they are ‘doing it’ to a lady which is what men sexually are, or it just does work. If men are not true to what are, they cannot work.

Women are soft and nurturing so they want to be treated gently, but if you are not masculine and a man with all your sexual desires and drives, you cannot function as a male. This is because you will have no drive or ability to do sex, because you are not being true to your own sex. So the man will not be masculine, be able to do it and also there will be no masculinity for the lady to be attracted to. A women may want to things from a man, but he must be a man otherwise he will not work. He has to be a man, you have to remember what you want and how you work. As a man you will not have her hobbies and point of view, and if you do, you will probably no longer be a hetra sexual male.

So the woman wants it to be like a wild strong stallion that keeps himself under a degree of control so does not push her around too much, go inside her to quickly, come too quickly and is gentle. This also means that the man can spend time doing foreplay. The women can want foreplay and sex to be for almost an hour before the man comes in side her. The woman wants the man to be doing this because he wants to give her pleasure and loves her.

Inexperienced males will get very excited, so will not be able to hold themselves back self and so will ejaculate too quickly. The male needs to ensure he does not get over excited.

Good sex

Women want a man who has sexual prowess, so must be a consummate lover.

Women want a man who can read the body language of his partner; in nearly every sexual escapade, he knows exactly what his partner needs, even if she doesn’t realise it. This is so the man never needs to stop him to say that what he is doing isn’t working, it is almost always perfect.

So the man never fails to perform, the lady rarely needs to tell him what she wants; he knows.

For a woman, when a man has sex with them, it means that the man finds them special. The woman wants it to be that the man finds her special.

Whole body

Whereas men have less erogenous zones, penis, nipples, anal area, lips etc.

Women have many erogenous zones, in fact they like a man to touch, kiss and caress their entire body and every part of their. This is also because sex us a way for women of being loved and they want it to be that the man loves every part of their body. It is good if the man I can touch more than one place on theur body at once.

Kissing

On a first date with a man, the kiss is really important to a women, it determines if he is the right man for her and so on.

It needs to be a romance novel kiss like he really loves her.

Trust

Girls are only happy with guy touching them once trust them, as sexually the girl is delicate and has to surrender. To trust the man they have to know his personality. Touching is how the electricity happens between a man and a woman.

Of course some ladies trust more quickly than others

After orgasm

If the man gives the woman an orgasm, she will think and feel he is wonderful and fantastic. This feeling of hers will go on for minutes and hours. It is important that the man is still romantic during these times and does not for example talk about football, or his favourite science fiction program as this will kill the romance and so her mood, feelings and thoughts of how wonderful you are.

Impermanence meditation

Impermanence:

Impermanence has two parts to reducing selfishness.

1, realising that having things below God have less value:

A person selfishly wants things, however by becoming aware that possessions and even themselves are not permanent, they realise these things are not so valuable and want them less.

The opposite of wanting to gain thing is fear of loosing things. By a person becoming aware that possessing those items and the themselves are not permanent, they are not so scared of losing them. Also by realising that the pain of loss is not permanent, it comes and goes, they are also not scared of the pain of loss

▪a person’s life on earth is not permanent. This also means that they having their possessions is not permanent. A good way to become aware of this is, to meditate on all the people you know who have died.

▪meditate on the moment now, this ever moving razors edge of time is a powerful way of seeing that earthly things are not permanent.

▪other things to meditate on are best if they are things that are quickly fleeting like breaths and so on.

Possessions

By the ego realising the things it sees as ‘mine’ are impermanent, the ego has less validity.

This is because the ego can be from what it owns.

So by meditating on how things it has as ‘mine’ and ‘my’ are impermanent, the ego’s validity reduces.

‘Mine’ and ‘my’ can be very subtle, even things which a person thinks are selfless, can be done in an ego way. For example, my observation, my meditation, my benevolent thoughts.
So also have to look at how these are all impermanent and recognise when doing it with with ego.

2, Realising that everything is one

Why not realise things are impermanent

This is often because a person does not want to think things are impermanent. They have their friends, society structure, groups and possessions that they know. They do not want to loose them. However eventually they will and this will of course be painful.

People do not like change because to get the new, they have to loose the old.

Wanting Attention

A person may act silly and stupid because they want attention.

They may act in a way that results in them being bullied and they do this purely for attention. They may not realise that they are doing this.

Wanting attention is dangerous because it makes a person do things which may be bad for them.

The attention they get can be for doing bad things, in the way children may be naughty to get attention.

In fact as it is easier to do bad things than good things, in the same way it us easier to destroy a car or house than build one. So wanting attention is more likely to make them do bad things for attention if they have short term aims.

Of course in the long term doing destructive things for attention will mean they get less attention because of how things go wrong.

How to appear capable

Do things properly:

▪Stand straight, do not slouch.
▪Do proper, full, complete movements and gestures. Do not cut them off through embarrassment, fear, nervousness, lazyness etc.
▪Speak fully and properly. Do not shorten or cut off your words and sentences. Speak fully, properly and clearly.
▪Think things through clearly, properly and to their end conclusion
▪Do things to do them properly, not just for show. For example do not sit up straight for show, do it to do it properly.
▪Do not do things by halves, do them properly.

However always make sure you are capable with things things for the right thing for God and other people.

Utimately it is thinking of others and doing things for others that will make you capable, because that is the highest motive.

Otherwise focusing on looking capable is just doing things for yourself. You will just be cold, selfish and no one will want to know you. This is because you are just appearing capable for yourself and selfish purposes. You are not giving and thinking of others!

Also people may hate you because they will be jealous and feel relatively small around you.

Also so that people can relate to you, it is also important to adapt so people can relate to you. Of you are more capable than them, then they will not be able to.

Also you may become stayed and boring, focusing on doing things properly is not being fun.

Being aware of spirits

To be aware of spirits and messages from spirits:
▪spirit is lighter than a feather accross an eyelash.
▪inner voices quieter than a light whisper.

They are the quick flash of a message, anything that comes after is the ego trying to change it. This maybe because it cannot cope with what was said, or wants to control it.

Morals are needed to be aware of spirit

As spirit is so subtle, people who are selfish cannot be aware of spirits. This is because they are so much focused on themselves, their emotions, what they have and so on. This means they cannot be aware of the non ego things such as the higher parts of themselves and other beings.

Selfish people are also so full of less balanced and more erratic emotions, being less refined they are also less able to be aware of spirit which is itself more refined.

The first level to be able to be aware of spirit is to make sure you never do anything to hurt anyone. This is enough of a level for you to be aware of spirit. Most people do not manage to do that and so do hurt others and cause damage.

The next level is to truly care about others and so serve and do things for others. This will take you to higher levels and higher grade spirit guides and partners.
I find that conventional thinking makes me think that all the thoughts in my head are from me. When I am with Warren I can tell more the thoughts, impressions and so on are from other beings.

Impressions and thoughts are normally from spirits, but due to conventional athirst thinking, can think they are just your own thoughts

I find that conventional thinking I was brought up with caused by atheism in society, makes me think that all the thoughts in my head are from me. When many of the thoughts and impressions and so on are from other beings.

Impressions with knowledge from inner teacher spirits and so in my mind that I normally dismiss as delusion, or my own thoughts, I realise are real.

Also, answers I am given from asking questions with images to my inner teachers are actually from them and not just from me.

I am expecting great drama, excitement, effects etc. like in movies and television from the inner voices. So when the responses are very normal, I think that the voices are me and not inner teachers.

However they are just beings and so they are more normal, so I must realise that they are inner teachers.

So I need to be more discerning and get over my conventional atheist scientific thinking, that all thoughts are me and have faith in these other beings existing more. That many thoughts impressions images etc are from other beings and not me.

Hopefully I can discern more their character and nature to realise what thoughts are from others. I am finding it quite hard, as these communications are so everyday like my own thoughts.