Charlie Munger, the business partner of Warren Buffet says the following. I think it is clever because he says to do it you have to let go of negative feelings.
“You don’t have a lot of envy.
“You don’t have a lot of resentment.
“You don’t overspend your income.
“You stay cheerful in spite of your troubles.
“You deal with reliable people.
“And you do what you’re supposed to do.
“And all these simple rules work so well to make your life better. And they’re so trite.”
His prescription is logical, he says.
“Staying cheerful” is “a wise thing to do,” Munger told Quick, adding that in order to do so, you have to let go of negative feelings.
“And can you be cheerful when you’re absolutely mired in deep hatred and resentment? Of course you can’t. So why would you take it on?” Munger said.
It is easy to be used to adrenaline and excitement, this means you look for things that cause you that, or get bored when you don’t have them.
However these are things that cause you anxiety, fear and so on. You are basically looking for problems.
So look at things which bring you peace.
It is good to go and get things, but be careful that when you get them, you don’t throw them away as you are bored by them. All because you are addicted to, or in the habit of having adrenaline and excitement.
You need to value peace, as without peace you cannot be happy.
Yes it can be boring, but still value it.
Self love and self respect
To have a happy life, a person needs to have self-love and self-respect. It doesn’t matter having all these things from the outside, if you don’t have them on the inside.
To achieve this you have to have done good moral things, otherwise you will just hate yourself.
You have to be a good moral person for things to work out, if they don’t work out how can you respect yourself.
You also have to allow yourself to love and respect yourself.
Cheer yourself on like you would a football team
People put loads of effort into cheering on football teams, people they’ve never met, don’t know them, or care about them.
You also need to cheer on yourself like you would a football team. If you don’t do that you’ll unhappy.
You also have to celebrate yourself, celebrate your successes, and so on.
Being happy as a person
It’s very easy to think you’ll be happy if you have a certain possession or thing.
Such as you’ll be happy if you have a partner, children, a certain toy, object and so on.
However in the whole scheme of things, these things won’t get make you happy, it’s how you are as a person.
So you need to be happy as a person. It’s not about whether you have these things or not. You are happy and well as a person and not by being attached to things.
So you are happy as a person, not happy because you are attached to things.
Having what you need, not what you want
Wanting things makes you miserable, you are dissatisfied as you don’t have enough.
You need to be able to have enough, or you’ll never satisfied, you just want more.
So having what you need is good, such as you need food to live. However wanting things never makes you satisfied and there’s also the added problem of you are then worried about losing them.
Interestingly people who have a lot, often find that the happiest time of their life was when they lost all their money through maybe some financial misfort. When they had nothing they were actually happiest.
So a person may have lots of power, money and so on. Other people see them and think they’re happy, but actually they’re not. They’re just attached to these things and really wanting them.
Of course it’s good to have what you need, such as medical help, a safe home and so on. However the big difference is between need and want.
Having it for others
If you are happy, then other people will be happy too.
This is because the universe is one, so if you are happy it goes on to other people.
If you selfishly want to be happy, you won’t be happy because that’s just a dark hole of sucking and taking.
If you are happy for the sake of others, so you’re happiness is so that it goes to other people and they get it, then you will be given more more.
It’s like an endless virtuous circle of you being happy so others get it and so you get more. It’s not for you, it’s for others and so it passes and goes through you.
So the best way to be happy is to think about making other people happy.
The best way to feel good is thinking about making other people feel good.
If you are just thinking about yourself feeling good, it’s just a dark sucky path of selfishness that does not feel good.