If a person has an inner self confidence, they will carry themselves in a way that when they walk into a room, people will notice them.

There is confidence in yourself, your abilities and in what you can do.

If you believe that you can do it, others will too, will want to be around you and benefit from your success.

This needs to be from the positivity of doing things well, not about the arrogance of being better than others and looking down on others.  This positive confidence then also spreads onto others and benefits them, you believe that they can do it too.

It means you believe you can do it, know you can do it and not have any fear.  

A person builds up confidence from the reality of their achievements, otherwise it is just a delusion which is a road to eventual ruin. You need to know the truth of when something is not working, so that you can resolve it.

To come over as confident you need to 100% do things, not do them in part or in halves. People without confidence are uncertain and do not do things wholy, properly and in full because they are not sure about them. This affects everything you do. For example some people even look insecure when standing as they do not think they can do that well, so do not do their posture 100% properly and just half do it.

People who are uncertain, look pathetic, especially if they are scarred, nervous and so on are a nuisance to do things with, as they are more of a liability than an asset.

In social situations it is about being confident in things you can help others with, if you do not believe you can do anything to help others, other people will think you cannot do anything to help them and they will not want to know you.

In fighting situations, if the other side thinks you are not confident, they will think you are a walk over and attack you. Also if the other side see fear, they will do movements to make you scared,blink, cower and make you run away..

You have to love and respect yourself for you to be well. 

Also if you hate and disrespect yourself:

-it is not good for yourself and your body, a bad energy that will damage and destroy you.
-you will be nerdy and not nice for other people to be around. People will be able to pick up that general dis satisfaction, unhappiness and frustration that comes from someone not liking themselves and being displeased and dissatisfied with their life.

The respect must be that you are good generally, however this must not be about being better than others, which also leads to arrogance and looking down on others.

It is about wanting things to be good and not just being better than others.

You can achieve this by doing good which means that you can love and respect yourself, if you do the opposite then that cannot happen and people will be able to tell.

Doing what needs to be done to succeed, not just what want to do

A person normally knows in their heart of hearts, what needs to be done for something to work and be successful.

However they do not do that and acknowledge that they should do that, because it is not what they want to do.

They then wonder why they are failing, but in their heart of hearts they really know and think they can just ignore that factor.

For example the person knows that to be successful in business you have to take risks, but they ignore and do not acknowledge that because they want to have an easy risk free life. I also do not want to look at, acknowledge and do risks. So they lie to themselves that it does not matter, when it does.

The man who knows that on dates girls want romance and are interested in girly things. He does not treat the lady like a beautiful feminine lady. This is because he wants and is only interested in blokey stuff. He does not want to look at her girly psyche, interests and hobbies.

He does not talk about girly things with the girl, because he is not interested and so fails. However the girl wants to talk about girly things and is not interested in blokey things.

He does not understand women, because he is not interested in looking at the extreme feminine aspects of their nature and psyche, as it is of no interest to him.

As a result of not doing what needs to be done to succeed and just looking at what he wants to look at, he fails.

In the same way a person can fail, because they do not look at what they do not want to look at. Also they do not do what they do not want to do. However to be successful, a person must look at and do what needs to be done for the thing to succeed.

One reason people do not play the game by how it works and just do what they want to do, is arrogance. Arrogance makes the person think they are above reality and how it works. When they get to this stage, even the best experts advisors and people with the correct answers cannot help the person because they will not listen. Arrogant people are often very angry which makes it even harder to help them.

Persistence

It is the quality of a person’s conviction that determines a mission’s success, not the number of people doing it.

Persistence is essential. Most people fail the first time they do something and the many times they try after that. The person who succeeds is normally the person who tried many many times and did not give up.

When doing something, failure cannot be an option. You cannot go back, you must go your own way and be true to yourself. If you allow yourself to give up, then failure is more likely. You can try different ways, but not give up.

Drive, initiative and courage are also essential, otherwise a person in reality does not do anything.

Need to be able to take risks, the desire for comfort and security can prevent a person from doing this.

Need to be a perfectionist, although a human on earth never achieves perfection, only at the level of god is there perfection.

Need to try and do better and better, trying to climb, reach the top. Only god knows where the top is. It is a spirit of how things are done. This is focused on how well you do things, not about wanting to receive things.

The person is determined, so they do it no matter what.

Focus

Focus on the job of doing it and solving problems, not the rewards such as fame, power and money that you want to get.

Need to focus on what trying to achieve. For example if a person looks at the left when driving a car, that is where they will steer it. If firing a gun need to look at the centre of the target, as the body and subconscious follow the directions aiming for.

Need to focus on the aim, so can go there.

However must not be indulgently dreaming and thinking about the money may get from winning the competition, or the next holiday may be going on. Need to focus on the job.

Needed to learn from others, but over obsession with competitors means not focusing on creating yourself and taking focus away from yourself and what you are doing. As a result will get more and more behind. An example is a runner in a running race, who looks at other runners, they will get slower and slower as not focused on their own running.

Being relaxed and focused at the same time

Doing these things at the same time is when great things are created.

You are relaxed, so you’re not using up energies, locking yourself up with stress and good things are able to flow and happen in and from you.

Also focused to make sure you can perform at your best and do the best stuff. This does not mean focusing on doing one thing, it means concentration on the job.

You could also call it, loose but focused.

Becoming a master

Focus on doing one thing well, people who do many different things are not winners in any field. Yes it may be risky just to do one thing and feel limiting. It is also very boring as when one can do it well, there is less of a challenge and novelty left as you have done it so many times.

Other things may look better, the old story of the grass is always greener. From afar other things look better, you only see the problems when you get close and really get into it. You will probably find it is no better than a field you are already in, just more fun and exciting as you have not done it before.

Do not forget how much time and resources went into learning the field you are currently good and you already know. Moving to something else means you are waisting and throwing away all that time and training.

You may think that a different business does not have the problems and bad points of your current business, it probably just has different problems and bad points.

It takes many years to learn a new field, do not get complacent and arrogant from your success in your current field, to think you can learn another more quickly than you took to learn your existing one.

Need to look at every detail, what juniors may not notice, a master will as has been doing it for so long.

Things should always come out better than last time, or progess is not being made.

You may feel limited, like you are just a one trick pony, but it took a lot to become good at and know your field.

How can something so simple be so good, because ultimate simplicity leads to purity.

Also becoming a master in a field takes many years and a long time to learn, it is a big long term investment. Many people want things now, so choose opportunities that are quicker to learn and so give a reward now. These smaller investments often give smaller rewards, so in the long term never really achieve anything great.

Once a person decides their occupation, they immerse themselves in their work, fall in love with their work, never complain about their job. They must dedicate their life to mastering their skill. That is the secret of success and the key to being regarded honourably.

Being around the best people

The best martial artists are the ones who trained with the best people. When they are fighting them, they are mirroring what the other person is doing.

They can see what good is, how to do it, what it feels like and all the techniques.

This is why the gyms with the best fighters are the ones that consistently produce the best fighters. They have the best there, so others can learn from them.

If you are in an organization such as a school and you are the best person, you’re not going to learn anything.

It’s best to be the least good person in organization where everyone is better than you, so you can learn things. Than the other way around.

Being deserving

A person gets what they deserve, work on being more deserving and worthy. Look in the mirror and see how deserving you really are. The worst waste for a person is to try and get more than they deserve, first work on becoming more deserving.
▪ if a person is a con artist they will not get honest people to do business with.
▪ if a person is ugly they would not get a good looking partner.
▪a coward will not win a fight

Natural talents

Must do what the natural gifts you were born with are, for example if a person has a sensitive palate and sense of smell, if a person takes it seriously they will get good at it and maybe should be a chef. The rest depends on how hard a person works.

A person must also do what they like and find interesting, or it will not work. Especially if you manage other people, once they detect you are not interested in it any more, then they also will not.

Being liked

Not having a need or wanting to be liked.

So the person can focus on doing what will be effective, not on what will get them to be liked.

A need to be liked and approved of by others can be a huge barrier to bring successful and making things work. This is normally caused by insecurity and vanity.

People who do not need or want to be liked are the alpha males and those who succeed. They do what is right, needed to be effective, regardless of these things.

Of course if a person is hated so much, or people have such disdain for them that others ensure they are rejected, then they will never be present in a situation to make the change.

However the need and desire to be liked and approved of, can prevent a person from being effective.

Examples include:
▪An organisation where staff numbers have to be cut, even if without that the company will go bust and everyone will loose their jobs.
▪Fighting, even if the person being fought against is in the wrong and evil, they will hate you even more for attacking them.

People like the person who gives them things, even if these things could lead to their ruin, or the ruin of the greater world or organisation. An example could be giving away money that would later lead to bankruptcy, or have to be clawed back with bigger taxes.

This is because they do not see or comprehend, the long term, bigger picture, more advanced things of what is really going on. Also it can be because they only look at what they want, or do not want, they do not look at what is really going on.

Be okay with being humiliated and disagreed with

Whenever a person does things, there will be people who disagree, weather it is out of their own ignorance, it is against their own interests or they greedily want more.

It does not matter what other people think about whether it will be successful, the underlying truth and reality, is what will determine the success or failure. People behave how they do work, not how they think they work.

So if somebody has an idea, belief or conviction in how something works and they are right, listening to other people who disagree may mean they do the wrong thing, or a less good thing.

There will also be people that want you to fail, or who would like you to be like them and do their selfish ways that do not work. I recommend avoiding such people.

Not lazy and long term

Most people when researching things are lazy, so just make the easy decision.

Need to be committed to the project, totally into it.
They are also very short termist, so just make the quick decision.

This is a source of why they just do whatever other people say, copy and go along with what they do.

This makes such people especially easily manipulated and influenced by others.

Be able to face problems

Be able to face when got things wrong and not blame others. Even if it was someone else’s fault, you should have succeded as shouldn’t have been working with that person in the first place.

When got things wrong use it to learn and improve.

Go out and find the problems to solve and learn from. Not just have head in the clouds about bits you got right and how wonderful you are.

Always try and get to the next stage and level. You may not be able to do it now, but by trying and trying and failing and failing. As long as you change and learn from each mistake, eventually you will get there.

Having a purpose

Need to have passion, emotion and love what do.

A person will not be successful, if they are not doing what they love to do.

From a sales point of view, it is not possible to fake it.

From the point of view of actually implementing it, it is also essential.

If have passion for it, will do it, need to have this to really be able to do it all the time and more than anyone else.

Passion means a person really goes forward and does things, when others have given up and stayed behind.

Need to really care about what do and be interested in it.

Need to have strong emotion as that is the energy that makes it happen.

Money is then the by product, not the purpose. If have that, then will make money.

The highest thing is to do something because it’s right, for the sake of God and otothers. It is the most powerful motivation to really get someone going and doing the right thing. This is because energy will come from the higher worlds if it is truly for God and others.
Also have to find out what your purpose in life is, what are made for. For example Marcus Lemonis found out that his was to connect people.

Commitment

There are many people who would succeed with what they are doing, but they give up too early or do not do it properly. As a result it fails.

There were always doubts when doing something new, but despite these, have to do it properly.

If someone is not committed to doing it 100% and properly, they will not succeed.

A bit like how and actor goes on stage playing a role. If they are not 100% committed to doing it 100%, it will not be good enough.

General

If working with other people, need to be with people that believe in you.

Jealousy can put people on a mission to destroy that which they want but cannot have.

For example:

So In a relationship,  where a woman has left the man, the man can want to destroy the woman they want but cannot have. This can lead the man to want to destroy her, her life and so on.

Where somebody else wants a posssession they cannot have. For exanple man 1 sees man 2 with a Porsche that man 1 cannot have. This is because man 1 will never have the money for it.  Man 1 does not just want to destroy the Porsche, they want to destroy man 2 who is the owner of the Porsche so that man 2 can never have the Porsche.

If there is a job someone would like, that they cannot have it as for example if they are just not capable of doing it. They may want to destroy the people who have that job, the organisation, everything about it to know what could happen can have it so that no one can have that job.

Another perspective on jealousy

Morally the world is one, so if someone has something you should be happy for them.

Sadly though most people do not see this absolute way of seeing things and just judge the world in a relative way. They can only see how well they are, by comparing themselves to others. They cannot see what they are against an absolute way of what is perfect and best and focus bon atriving towards it, like seeing how close or far away they are from God’s way.

These blinded, sleepy, ignorant people just think thst if they have more than someone else they think that they are okay, if they have less than someone else they think that they are not okay. However maybe everone is not okay, or everyone is not okay. Things need to be seen in absolute and not relative terms. These people often just resort to pulling other people down, they feel it is easier to destroy others than to do the positive thing of sorting themselves out.

Yet another perspective on jealously

There are limited resources in the world, attractive women, land, water and so on. There is competition for these resources, people who are less capable to get these resources may rather just destroy those people who can. However of course the world as a whole is worse off for not having those people.

It depends if yoy are a giver or taker:

A giver: sees capable people as giving and creative, without those people there would not be great things and the world would fall apart.

People who give rise and get to a level where they are with great people as that is where they deserve to be.

A taker: capable people just take, if they were not there then I can have it. If they were not there then in relative terms I am better because those better people are not there.

The answer to jealousy

It is for rich people not to show off and poor people not to be jealous of rich people.

Most people have a nice car or painting, not because they get pleasure from it, but as a status symbol to show off. Ti show they are richer than other people.

However as much pleasure as they get from showing other people that they are better than them, the other person gets equal displeasure from being seen as less good than them.

So the answer is not to show off, do things without claiming credit, showing off how much money you made. Yes, you may like showing off, but everything has a price, including making other people feel small.

Of course you must have your talents, good looks, money and all the other things you need to serve others and you have gained by your good karma, but showing off is something else.

If you do have great things then try and share your victories so that people feel part of your team, a bit like how people like great footballers because they feel part of their success, especially if someone is part of their team or a supporter of it.

There are evil people who just want to pull other people down from having the results of their good karma, these tend to be negative people who do not give, and they just take. If there are too many of these people sometimes the only solution is to go away.

Fear:

Fear leads to hate, hate leads to anger and aggression, anger and aggression leads to destruction and suffering.

Fear leads to aggression as a person is wanting to stop something from being lost.

A person with fear is wanting not to loose things, a greedy person is wanting to gain things, so greed can also cause these problems.

Fear can also be the fear of not getting something that the person wants to have.

To be nice to someone you are soft, gentle, open like an open door. To be nasty to something you are like a miltary tank, hard, do not let people see in, but of course that also means you cannot see out. Excessive fear may make you excessively like the fighting like a tank, when you should in fact be soft and nice like an open door.

The aim is to be able to go between each state as is correct for the situation, but excessive fear may stop you from doing that.

If someone has a lot of fear, as they have had it for a long time they will think it is normal. As a result of thinking that is normal they will not be able to see it, so here are signs that you or another person has fear:

1, Feelings of aggression and hate

As said earlier, if you have fear then you are scarred, to protect yourself you are aggressive and so angry. As you see people as a threat you begin to hate them. Once you are being aggressive and hating others then you do bad things and suffering can only follow.

You hate people as they are a threat to you.

2, Wanting things resolved now:

As fear is a selfish thing you want the things to be resolved now as you want the end result now. This makes you rush things which of course also makes you stressed, as it is not correct way to do things this way. You should never rush, or do them faster than the time you can do things, such as speaking fast. You should do things in a methodical way, in the time that you can do them without causing you stress, in the timescales that you can do them well and with a long term view. So for example with fear you may speak fast, move physically fast and not consider things properly.

3, Wanting to control things:

if people are scarred of things around them they want to control them so they cannot hurt them. They may also want to destroy it for the same reason.

Controlling things too much can damage things and not be nice for the other person. This is because it limits their freedom, it is you controlling them so they are not being naturally themselves and true to themselves

4, Speaking loudly:

So with people they may speak loudly, as loudness is aggression as it is like a barrier or block that stops people from being able to get through to you (also it maybe that the person who speaks more loudly is in control as they are giving the orders).

5,Speaking quickly:

This can be because you are scarred and so want to get away, you get it over and done with as quickly as possible because you are scarred that other people will interrupt you, mock you, hurt or even attack you.

It is also just a feature of the fear and worry energies, emotions and feelings.

6, Fast gestures and movements:

Fast gestures that also move sharply, like your hand or other body park moving fast, but also stopping sharply at the start of it’s movement and end of it’s movement. This is a sign of aggression and so you should have soft, rounded movements that start and end smoothly which is more warm and loving.

7, Excessive movements

The person has lots of movement with their hands, body, arms legs etc This is because of all the nervous energy running around and is a reflection of all their nervousness generally.

In severe cases, part of their body may shake.

8, Vibration in the voice is a giveaway of fear. Also the voice cannot make beautiful sounds that make people feel like they want to communicate with you. Fear causes the voice to close up and when you loose the fear it will open up with wonderful sounds that are interesting and engaging.

9, Feeling cut off from other people, you are blocking yourself off emotionally so that people cannot get to you as you are defending yourself from them.

10, Anger, fear leads to anger and aggression

11, Tight muscles:

Rigid muscles, fear leads to aggression and tight muscles is a way of showing that the psyche is cutting itself off from other people emotionally. This is because the body and mind are one. These rigid muscles use up al lot of energy and so makes you tired and less able to do things.

Being open and giving to people, is being soft and open so you can give things from yourself to others and they can get through to you. Defending yourself and attacking is rigid and hard so as to hurt others when hitting them and to not let things through if people are attacking you. So this shows that you are psychologically defending yourself which shows itself in your physical muscles being hard, rigid and tight as well.

12, Communication problems:

Hard time communicating with people: the block to defend yourself means you are blocking your soul and emotions from people so they cannot attack you. However then they cannot feel and experience you that people cannot communicate with you. So they cannot see you, you cannot be interesting as they cannot see and experience you, your inner psyche, soul, self. You are remote from others.

13, People not want to be with you.

Psychologically when you give things to people you are connecting with them, such as them having love, joy, happiness from you, ‘the doors’ need to be open so that it can happen. By you having these good things and the doors being open, they shine onto others. When you are defending yourself, you are closing them so they cannot get to you and of course they also are not getting things from you. It also stops the higher and inner energies that come to you from going to other people as the rigidity from defending yourself from others means it cannot go out to them. So you need to be soft so that these energies can come down and go out to others. You may not be scarred of the person you are with, but the fact that you are thinking about maybe another person you are scarred of, means that is where you are and people will not want to be involved with you.

As fear makes you are angry, aggressive and hate other people they will not want to be with you. People want to be with people who are happy, gentle to them and love them. All things are one, so the fact that this is the case means these things will come over to the other person, as in reality they are not separate from you and is the truth of the situation, their subconscious experiences this and you cannot cover these things up.

Also being like this means that, even if you are trying to cover it up, you are in truth being nasty to the other person and that is the truth of what is going on.

14, Inability to be aware

if you are scarred you defend yourself and so to do this you block yourself off from things, so you cannot experience other people. A wall may keep the burglars out, but you cannot see through it and it cuts things off.

15, Fight or flight,

fear exaggerates things so gets adrenaline going that may not be needed. You really move quickly and it is not good for the body to the person is not good at sex

16, Not being good at things and people thinking the person is not good at things.

Success is caused by being able to focus on the job. If a person is scared and nervous, they are more focused on worrying about if it goes wrong.

This lack of focus, attention, time, thought and energy on the task, because it is being used up on worrying and nervousness about if it goes wrong makes the them useless. This is because they are then not putting anything into doing the job and are distracted.

17, Excessively defending yourself

This is a big one and leads to all kinds of problems, it is a root cause of many of the other points above.

When a person is giving to something they are soft, when they are defending themselves they are hard, just like in point 11 ‘tight muscles’. However it goes deeper than that.

This is like the armour on a tank, or she’ll of a tortoise. They are hard so nothing can penetrate them.

A person is hard, has a barrier to everything and with everything, they cannot function and work with those things. For example:

a, Not able to be aware of things and tell what is going on: As a barrier to everything to defend themselves, they cannot be aware of things on a psychological level. There is a shell and hardness over their aura, so they cannot feel other people’s emotions and feelings, as nothing can get in. On physical and spiritual levels, they also cannot see things.

Even on a basic level, the person will be defending themselves from words that may hurt them, so not listening. Ideas that may be harmful so not thinking about things they hear. This may mean that a person cannot learn properly and do well in school.

b, Using up all their energy, a lack of energy: this hardness uses up a lot of energy. A bit like running with stiff muscles means a lot of energy is being used up, is hard to do, exhausting so the person cannot travel so far.

To create, make and feed this hardness, energy is being used up on a physical, psychological and spiritual level. So the person will be useless and exhausted as all their energy will be used up. This is impossible to maintain and will lead to headaches, fatigue, a feeling of being drained etc. The person’s body will be damaged by the lack of energy as it is all used up.

It takes a lot of energy to build this shell, for example the one above that stops a person from being aware of things.

They also have a lack of energy because energy cannot get in, they cannot get energy from the physical, psychological and spiritual levels. They are defending themselves from it, putting up hardness, so it is not getting in.

So the person cannot get the energies that naturally come from the inner and outer world. When a person experiences something, it is also energy they are getting from that thing they are also experiencing.

All things are energy and by cutting them off, a person is cutting themselves from getting energy.

c, Not able to do things: When a person is defending themselves they do not do things, they are so busy defending what they have that they cannot get out there, do and create more.

They are so involved in their barricades, putting up barriers, that they cannot get out there to create anything from behind their shell. They cannot put stuff out there and ensuring that nothing is taken away from them.
Cures for fear are

1, Selfishness

Not to be selfish about if you may loose things, or not get the things you want or need. Think more about doing the right thing, the needs and welfare of others, serving God. This takes away fear which is usually because you are scarred about yourself. You can be scared for other people, but as that is based on benevolence, sympathy and compassion it does not lead to the lower and negative traits above as it is benevolent.

2, Bravery and Courage

Bravery and courage, especially about the pain and hurt of loss. It is a good thing to feel, ponder, practice and meditate on. Courage and bravery means that the person can cope with, face and take the loss. They can live with and bare it.

3, Habits and traditions

Ask yourself if the thing you are scarred of is here now, maybe it is something that has passed but you are repeating the habit, your subconscious does not realise that it has gone, or you want to be thinking about that thing because it is predictable as it is in the past, a kind of nostalgia? What is the worst that could happen, is it really that bad? What are the statistical chances of it happening to you? Has it happened to you before, often or recently? It may be something that you needed in the past, but no longer need and now is causing you a problem.

4., Choice and using your free will

Make the choice to change, habits are easy and it is difficult to change. The old thing dies, as it is part of you it is like dying yourself.

5, Exposure

Expose yourself to the risk, normally excessive fear is because you were exposed to a small risk a long time ago, often when you were very young and far far more vulnerable than you were now. However as you are now scarred of it, you have not looked at it directly, you may have seen it with your physical senses but your psyche did not look at it. Now your mind has blown it up like a balloon so your fear is that it is sometime of far far greater proportions than it actually is. Not being exposed to it enables the mind to do this as you are aware from the reality of what you are scarred of.

6, Is it Constructive?

Is it constructive? Look at all the things you can create and do, that the fear is stopping you from doing. Things that you can create, do for others and get yourself. It it is far better to look at positive creation and go that way, than just fighting negative things. By feeding the good trees they outgrow the bad weeds.

7, Look at the good

Look at the good, fantastic and awesome things in your life, not just the problems. Look at the bright side of life. People look at what the different scenarios and possibilities could be, need to look at the good and best possible scenarios, not just the bad ones.

For example if I have a fear of heights, once get to the top of a high up structure and can see the beautiful view. The enjoyment of the beautiful view will be so much that will be greater and more interesting than the fear of heights

In all places and times there are good and bad things. To solve problems and progress a person does need to solve the bad stuff and problems. However as humans we cannot always spend time in the rubbish and need to look at and spend time with a good as well.

Also by looking at the good we can expand them, so they get bigger and bigger. Then often the bad things do not matter anymore as they are smaller and smaller compared to the good that is growing. This is like feeding the good trees in a garden, so there is no room left for the weeds and they die out.

8, Focus

Decide to just focus on getting on with doing something constructive. Choose not to allow yourself to get nervous, realise how stupid it is to allow yourself to be nervous.
When energies comes down from above they are neutral, a person’s choices, behaviour, way, posture, manner and intentions determine whether it will be desire, fear, love, lust etc.

So if a person is getting on with doing good and being constrive, this can even be resting to ensure they are going to perform well when they go back to work. This will lead them away from spending time and energy on fear.

However it is important not to oppress emotions, emotions are energy, we use them to feel on that level and area, part being human. Without them we cannot function, will not have energy, there will be no beauty in life and so on. This is simply about doing and thinking about something else, so the emotions and energies go in a different direction.

9, Physical techniques

Physical techniques: As the body, psyche, spirit, divine and God are one, changes with one will affect the others. However changes in the higher ones most powerfully over ride the others. Physical techniques include slow deep breathing, slow gentle smooth movements that start and stop smoothly. Not moving at all and staying still. Speaking slowly, quietly and softly.

10, Psychological techniques

For the same reasons as the physical techniques, try psychological ones. Such as thinking about, pondering and picturing things like love, calmness, rest, serving others, from a selfish point of view being fine if loose everything and God.

11, Hope, Faith and Belief

Look at hope, faith and beliief. On a lower level there is hope which is the opposite of fear. However it is important for the long term for a person to put there hope in something good. For example that by doing good, things will eventually go well.
On a higher level there is faith and belief. From a higher level hope is just sitting on a wall hoping something good will happen. Faith and belief (preferably in the divine) means that if a person does good, they believe good will happen. As a result a person believes they will not be hurt by evil doers and there is no need to be scarred. This faith and belief in good and positive means something good will happen

12, CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Techniques)

These are questions a person asks themselves, to answer them they have look at the situation or thing that is causing their fear and then answer.

This means a person has to look at the situation and see what it really is, which is hopefully different from what they believed it is.

Also answering to themselves, means a person is changing their thoughts and hopefully their thinking habits.

Fear comes from a person thinking they are unsafe, so for they could ask.

Here and now am I in danger?

Or a more positive one to bring themselves out of it.
Here and now am I safe?

Others could be about a thing they are scared of happening and they could ask themselves, such as?

Although it is possible, is it probable?

Last time I checked had it happened?

Last time I did it, had it happened?

What is the worst that could happen?

When I looked before, was it there?

13,

Facing the fear in your mind itself.

To face a fear, the person is often looking at the things they are scared of, such as a snake, heights, being with people, etc.

However the excessive fear is in a person’s mind.

So while the thing they are scarred of is happening and the person is around the things they are scared. The best thing is to also look at their own mind. They should look at the words, pictures, words, feelings, energies, etc. in thier conscious mind, which are coming from their subconscious.

By looking at these fears directly and facing the fear itself in their mind, not just the thing they are scarred of, the person can see how the fear has grown out of all proportion and see it for the ridiculous things they are.

If the fear is irrational, the problem is the fear itself in the mind, not the actual thing they are scared of.

14,

Ability to fight:

The world can be a tough place and as much as must be kind to others, must always have that ability to fight if needed. The world is a scarier place if not able to fight and defend oneself.

This is not just physically, but also emotionally and psychologically.

When a person is fighting and is angry, they are focusing on destroying the enemy or defending themselves and not on worry and fear of getting hurt.

This of course needs to be balanced out by making sure it do not become a bully etc. However need to have it for when it is needed.

15. Healing from things that happened in formative years

You have been injured by trauma and like any injury it can heal.

This should probably be near the top or at the top. If you had parents that had a lot of fear, these will be passed down to you and you will have the fear as well.

You need to talk about this with a therapist to come to terms with what is real and what isn’t. You need to dig deep into all the attitudes, things you are worried about, ideas and outlooks you have.

It takes the time with a therapist to see deep into this, with all the different angles, experiences and perspectives.

When you are on your own, ponder scary times in your life sit down in a calm place and look at what comes into your mind. These things will probably around when you were younger and they will start to form in your mind so you can see them.

Maybe your parents were scared of certain things, had certain ideas and outlooks and perspectives on life.

These could have been passed down through many generations. Even caused by experiences or mistakes from many generations ago.

You’ll find that you are living life not through what is going on right now, but by how you are set up in your young formative years.

Maybe things are going on with your family and you experience things that were scary. You think that’s life and how it works.

When they up out of your formative years, they are part of what forms you. However you can become aware of them and so be calm with them.

Maybe your parents were rude to you, didn’t give you love, so you have trust issues, insecurities and seek validation.

Maybe you would just around those things in your formative years and so they have formed part of who you are.

These things will still exist, but you can build new parts to yourself and grow and change.

By facing these traumas, you will see that they are no longer there and no longer is big so you can start to deal with them and see everything is ok.

16. Worrying is painful

Use your awareness and feelings to realize how worrying is painful.

Worry s a painful thing and experience.

17. Being paranoid makes you sad and depressed

You will also see and experience how being paranoid makes you sad and depressed. This is because you are experiencing the sad parts of life which are the things you’re worrying about.

18. Don’t get involved with it

Just like when a nasty person comes along, it’s best not to get involved with them.

When an irrational, unuseful or not helpful thought comes that you’re scared of something, just don’t get involved with that thought, do something else.

For example if you’re in a plane and you’re having massive thoughts about the plane crashing. Just don’t get involved with those thoughts, get on and think about something else that’s positive.

19. Be courageous

The best way to deal with fear is to be courageous, it’s what heroes are about and what makes them.

So be courageous, then you can be fearless.

20. Look at your formative years, what happened between the ages of 0 and 7 years old.

Events that happened when you were younger, how your parents were and your environment.

You are probably formed, carrying and being like in those earlier times.

If you were in a environment for the fear, maybe you still think that’s around.

If your parents would like that, maybe you think that’s the way to be.

If you well around people who are full of fear when you were younger, maybe you were full of that thing and think that’s what life is about.

Maybe you had a life threatening experience when you were younger, you weren’t acknowledged, or ruin an emotionally unpleasant environment. Maybe you still think the world is like that as that’s what it was like in your formative years.

So you need to go through these things with a psychotherapist and discover what’s really going on.

Then you can compare your childhood formative years to what the world really is like now.

21. Thinking that things will go well, compared to thinking that things will go wrong.

People full of anxiety think that everything will go wrong.

They are full of panic and anxiety because they think that when they do something it will go wrong.

People who are full of joy think that things will go right.

So look at your thoughts and see whether you think things will go wrong or right.

You can’t go through life thinking everything is going to go wrong, because you can’t live like that, it’s just too much burden to live with.

A calm person is:

Never worries or stresses, just gets on with it, this makes them more effective as more of their focus is on just getting on with it, or constructively thinking about it. Focus worry and stress is of course an emotion and a feeling.