How to be cool and not nerdy

Cool people tend to be those that have things, good things.

Nerdy people are those who have bad things or have nothing.

However this means having things on all levels, physical, psychological, spiritual and divine.

A metaphor would be to be a big strong powerful car, it not only has a big engine, but the wheels and other bits that able to control that power.

Strong emotionally, physically etc.

How you are physically affects how you are psychologically.

How you are psychologically affects how you are physically.

How are you are spiritually affects how you are psychologically.

How you are psychologically affects how are you are physically.

And so on……

Cool people deal with problems, nerdy people fall apart.

A useful definition

To loose your cool is defined as, to fail to maintain a calm and controlled attitude.

Nerdy people

Tend to be: anxiety, worry, nervousness, timid, scarred, stressed, hating things that should be loved.

They are not confident.

They do not things with any certainty, this means they are not so effective not as doing things fully and properly. They slowly do things checking and seeing if okay with others and so are second or last .

Nerdy people look like they find things difficult, can be seen on their face and how they move that they things difficult.

Nerdy people when faced with a problem do not stay strong and get on with it, they just fall apart.

They are so interested in logic that they do not know about and are not aware of emotions and feelings. The right motions and feelings, are part of what makes someone cool and not nerdy.

They do not know how to love others and things like that which makes them cool and attractive.

They also are not aware of their anxiety, stress, hate and, fear, cowardice all the other emotions and feelings which can become extreme and make them fall apart

Not know how to have fun and enjoy themselves.

Hate themselves when, they should love themselves. So they are full of other negative emotions and feelings which are targeted at themselves.

This hating themselves also means they are damaging themselves by doing so. This of course looks terrible.

If the person hates themselves then other people will think and feel they should hate them too.

Just like if a person sees someone else who is bad, or has done bad things, they may believe that person deserves punishment for the bad things they have done.

If a person themselves has done bad things, they may believe they deserve punishment and may try and destroy themselves and wish bad things on themselves. This makes the person hate themselves, instead of loving themselves.

So it is important to do good so that you think you deserve good and wish for good things for yourself as you deserve it.

Nerdy people are oppressed by others, because they do not stand up for themselves. They do not have the courage, bravery and fighting power to do this in the face of long term attacks that can come from bullies, people who want power over them and to exploit them.

This oppression also means nerdy people have even more negative emotions faced at themselves, such as fear for themselves, sadness at their situation, self hate and frustration at themselves and the situation. Also they become less confident of themselves and less self assured, which makes them even less attractive.

It is fine to hate evil people, you should love good and hate evil. However as they are upset at their own failure, they begin to hate themselves which is like destroying themselves.

As bullies say nasty things about them, they begin to believe it and they loose their self belief and confidence. It is what we think of ourselves which is the most powerful in how we come over to others and what others think of us.

We must always be servants of God and God wants what is right for all. God would not want us to be oppressed and wants the best for us. God is good and not evil.

Need to do good and not evil, also succeed at things. As a result a person will naturally love and not hate themselves.

The way we judge ourselves, is basically is no different to how a person judges another person.

Cool people

Loving, affectionate, courage, brave, confident and full of self belief.

They are confident.

They do things with certainty, this means they are effective as doing things properly. Even little things like picking up a cup is done differently as done with certainty.

They do not let any problem stop them from being calm and focused. They do not fall apart, or give up, they just keep getting on with it.

Cool people also find all things in life easy, things do not cause some stress or difficulty. If things come up, they just do it and for them it is easy.

They have all the emotions of sadness, stress, anger etc., but they do not fall apart.

Also staying calm at all times, not stressed, panicking or rushing. They can do this because they are brave and courageous, they know that if they panic it falls apart. The harder, bigger and more important the problem, the more impressive that they have have not panicked.

A crisis is an even more important occasion to not panic, do things at the speed you can actually do them and not be pushed around by the situation. You are in control of yourself, not other people and the situation.

They are not phased by anything that goes on or happens, so they can deal with it best.

It is very easy for person to stay cool calm and collected went by themselves and not challenged. To be a cool person they need to stay cool, calm, collected and happy in the face of difficulty and not get worried, stressed, and nervous about difficult things.

Panic makes us try to do things faster than that and it just does not work, so they are not done properly, it is not as good, it ends up being slower and you just have to redo them again. Panic gets in the way of the brain doing things the best that it can and at the speed that it can actually do things. In the end, taking your time means things are actually done more quickly and better.

Panic as it comes from fear, locks us up and stops us from functioning. The person is just thinking about themselves and what will happen to them, when to be effective need to just focuson the job, motivated by the needs and welfare of God and so others.

However if you can say calm, you can do things quickly, efficiently and well, even if you are moving quickly. Also you look great as you are not falling apart.

This is because your physical movements and posture will be clean, fluid and unfluttered. Also you will not have the negative facial and bodily expressions that come from negative emotions and feelings.

Emotional intelligence, they know about emotions and feelings, how important they are for people and in social interactions. That emotions are a real energy and existence.

Emotions and feelings are part of what makes someone cool and not nerdy. Love, courage, bravery etc.

They know how to love others and things like that which makes them cool.

Standing straight and not hunched over, as they are in charge of themselves and are not just being oppressed by other people.

If you live correctly then your emotions are clean, harmonious and fluid, you are in harmony with them. Can attack people, but only when needed.

However negative people are just oppressed and frustrated, so this is not the case. So in their resentment, frustration they attack people all rhe time when of course they should not.
Know how to have fun and be happy for the sake of others, so they get to experience it.

Beautiful people on the outside, tend to be beautiful on the inside, they do, are and appreciate beauty. A person can do good things such is doing filing for someone, but if they do not do it in a beautiful way, then it is not a beautiful thing, done beautifully for someone else.

Beauty is a wonderful thing that needs to be learned and understood in itself, for example it can be giving people beautiful emotions and feelings.

Love God and do God’s morals, so things go well and are rewarded with these things as deserve them. A person gets them as have them for God and others, not for themselves.
These all come from doing God’s morals.

If a person has God’s morals, then they will be blessed with everything that makes them cool.

Power

Responsibility

If you first take responsibility then you are given power, it does not happen the other way around.

However most people want power without responsibility.

They do not want to take responsibility and want to have everything done for them.

For a person to have power, there must be a reason why they have been given it by others.

You are given a right to something when you deserve it, can handle it correctly and usefully.

People do not want to take responsibility for themselves and their lives.

As a result they let someone else take responsibility, then they end up just doing what they are told and that person has power over them.

They do what that person tells them to, even if that person is self serving and not doing what is right for them, but they let this happen as they do not want to take responsibility.

A person may also do evil if the leader tells them to and the leader says they will take responsibility for the person’s actions. Of course morally and karmically the leader is lying as this is not possible, because the person chose to go along with the leader and it is the person that did the action.

To get promoted in a company, take on responsibility after responsibility, especially easy to do if it is the stuff that other people do not want to do. Then you get huge amounts of power and until you become CEO, no one will have really noticed.

On an inner level, if you take responsibility for your psyche, then you can control it. This means a person can really be aware of, change and effect things with themselves.

Real power

Power does not come about from telling people what to do, it comes from a person changing themselves and this changes others. This could be their actions, views, feelings, emotions, spirit, connection with God etc.

By lighting a light in one person, it affects others, as everything is one.

So to improve and change the world, a person changes themselves and this really effects others.

A philosopher said:

A man wanted to change the world and he could not.

The man then tried to change his country and he could not.

He then tried to change his village and he could not.

Then he tried to change his country and he could not.

For a person to have power over themselves they must take responsibility for themselves. By a person taking responsibility for their psyche they they get control over their psyche. This means taking responsibility for what have done wrong etc.

Setting an example

A leader can say all kinds of things, but it is the example they set which has the real effect. They can say what they like, but without setting that example nothing will happen.

People needing and or wanting to do what the other person is saying,

People will listen and do what the other person says, because they need or want what the other person is saying and they believe in it. So then that person has power as other people are doing what they say:

A doctor saying how they can be cured
A politician with a solution for how they can get out of their problems

Others have a need to do what the other person is telling them to do.

Normally the thing has to be delivered with total confidence for the other person to want to do it and go along with it. That is how politicians do it. Often what they say is nonsense and empty, but delivered with total confidence so people go along with it.

Ego

If you try and control things from an ego point of view, you stop God and the universe doing it’s job and nothing works.

Ethics

Power is given to a person because other people want to follow them.

Power cannot be taken, if the other person does not want to follow people and has to, in the long run it can only go wrong. This could be a dictator.

It could be manager a worker has to follow, even though the does not think that they are any good. The worker will not really want to do the things because cannot believe and trust them.

A person has other people follow them because they earn trust and respect by doing good works. If the manager does a show of force against the worker by ‘waiving a stick around’ and showing by force people must follow them, it will not end well.

Lust for power

Selfish desire for power is a dark, nasty and horrible thing that consumes and so destroys the people wanting it. It destroys them, hurts them and makes them feel horrible. People may think that they are in control, but the selfishness of wanting power consumes them.

A person may want power as they they enjoy it, are entertained by it, find it pleasing and pleasurable. The more power they have, the more they believe they will be somebody, important and seen as important. This is especially so for people with low self esteem.

Morally a person can have power because they need it for the sake of others, so they have it for the sake of others. If this is not the case then it may be there, it but must not be used. Using power for selfish reasons is selfishly having something and not good.

How to tell if someone is power mad or a control freak

The biggest one is if they cannot cope, gets stressed, agitated, angry, upset if they are not in control of a situation involving people, objects, the world and so on.

When a person wants to be in control of a situation, that is having power over a situation and so other people.

When a person wants attention and does things to get attention, it is because they want power. So when a person shows off it is to get power from the people giving them attention.

Other someone is a control freak:

▪They interrupt the other person when they are talking.
▪Override and direct the conversation, where it is going, subject, what is said, views, opinions and so on.
▪Even when the other person has said something they have to repeat it like they are the one saying it.
▪Have to be the person that said the last word in the conversation, this can include the last word in each section of a conversation.
•Speak more loudly than the other person, this can be because they want to force that they are the one giving the orders.

Normally this is caused by the person:
▪wanting to have power.
▪having a fear of loss, so they control as a defence, or attack.

Something to believe in

People want something to believe in. However this can be used by a leader to control people, as they are so focused on believing in something, that they do not see what is really going on. This can be s belief, philosophy, exercise, idea etc. It is done a bit like how a magician uses misdirection.

Cults rob people of self determined, own intention.

This is because they just follow a leader. Go into rituals which cheer how wonderful the cult leader is.

Everything positive that happens to a person is validated, by attributing it to what taught by the cult leader.

Everything negative that happens to you, told is because of lack of application of doing what taught by the cult leader.

That mind control is how people get stuck in the mousetrap.

They believe what they are told so much, they just go along on with it.
Someone to believe in

A cause of this can be that people want to feel secure. So try to find someone to be their mummy or daddy and fulfil that role in their life.

As a result this leader does everything for them and takes responsibility for the person, so the person becomes less effective as they are not taking responsibility for themselves.

As a result the person skives and not do what needs to be done, as there is no need, because they are secure without doing anything.

A person can be shown what to do and how things work. However the results only happens if they make their own choices of what they believe is right do the work themselves etc. That is being an adult.

A person can believe that they have been shown the right way by someone, but they must think for themselves, do things for themselves and take responsibility for themselves.

Good and bad values

People who value power, money, sex and fame tend to want it and go towards evil.

It is not about these things, it is about good and doing the right thing that you should value. As opposed to bad and doing the wrong thing.

If you do the right thing and need power, money and fame to achieve these things, then you will get them in the spirit of needing these things for service, but not for own pleasure and engorgement. So it is doing the right thing which comes first and then leads to the other things coming along, if they are needed for that purpose.

All these things belong to God and not yours anyway.

Of course you may have a mission where power, money and fame are not needed, but you will then get whatever else you need for the mission, such as advice, teachings, energy and so on.

Of course you need to enjoy life and have fun, it is a human need and so is fine. There is no merit in denying yourself what you need, as then you will then not be in a good state to serve others.

Like all such things though, it should never go too far. It is a hard balancing act between getting the enjoyment you need and over indulgence.

So you need to value and worship God, who is morality, doing the right thing, good as opposed to evil.